
01-02-2007, 09:30 AM
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Location: Alabama
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Originally Posted by rockandahardplace
Hi ladies,
Firstly, I'm a guy. There. That's out of the way. I'm coming here because I'm stuck on a problem and I don't know what to do about it. Granted, that happens all the time, but this one is especially difficult.
My girlfriend and I live together. She has a heavy menstrual cycle and I am fine with that. I try to get over to her that I am supportive of her needs there but she makes me feel like I'm not doing enough or am doing something wrong.
The problem is maybe 2 nights out of the month the bleeding is so heavy that it soaks through her pajamas, through the sheets, and into the bed itself. She gets upset with me when I expect her to clean it up, and tells me that it's a womans thing and I have to "deal with it". But that's the thing, I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND, but how do I convince her that cleaning it up is not an insult? She gets so bent out of shape when it happens and she cleans it up. I mean, it's certainly unhygienic (and disgusting) to leave it, and I don't think it's disrespectful at all. I just don't know.
Being a guy, I present the case analytically. We have 3 practical options when dealing with this problem.
1. Plastic sheets for a week out of the month (She doesn't like this option because she relates it to being a childish bed wetter and says I'm treating her like a child by even suggesting it)
2. We leave the bed as is and sleep in nasty crusty blood spots.
3. I end up cleaning it every time because she doesn't want to (I've done it a few times, but I won't do it every time.. and besides that, it doesn't all come out. There's still residual stainage.)
So, basically, as always is the case in the affairs of women's emotions I think I'm handling something wrong, but this one is a doozie. What do I do? How can I convince her option #1 isn't treating her like a child but is a practical solution to the problem?
Thanks,
Stuck between a rock and a hard place
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Hey! Thanks for coming to this site-its good to see guys THIS concerned! Okay now w/your problem: First of all this is hard to say-but you need to consider if this is the woman that you wan't to be w/forever, if so..her attitude towards you seems like a problem, it's quite rude of her to expect you to clean it up or for that matter get mad when she has to clean it up-I am a heave bleeder and if and when i spot thru I freak out and clean it up immediatley! I hate for my husband to even know-yeah like she said it's a part of her and she has not a lot of control over it-but it's once a month-so she should deal w/the fact that she might have to be uncomfortable for a wk and wear extra thick pads and full bottom panties and the plastic sheets would even be a thought-I would consider them. And the wetting the bed scenario is a good Idea but she seems like one to get easily angered-so that's in your hands-but if she can't understand that you dont mind that it happens or you understand that it happens and that you would just like her to clean it up-then ya'll've got more than this problem on your hands..I hope I helped in someway! Good luck and just be honest w/her  God Bless!
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