Thread: My mom has severe PMDD and i just dont know anymore

thanks for all your help. i will definitely suggest that she do that. I know i have to do something for me,but its much easier said then done in my case. right now she is in her one week frame. you know the time and THE only time when she is okay. i love this week, but im always on edge because i know its soon to end. I just have to make the best out of my situation for the time being i guess.

Hey mea105,

I can see that your last post is a few months old so some of what i am saying may not be relevant. I understand where both you and your mother are coming from as I too suffer and so has my mum for as long as I can remember. I'm only 26 and I go through all the time with my PMDD and have done for about 3 years. Some of the most important events of my life have been ruined by this and some days i just don't know whether i will make it through. Luckily my mum has been my pillar of strength and I hers. since I moved away last year it has been hard on her but also hard on me but she understands that I will never truly abandon her and had to relocate for career purposes. I always go back to visit as often as i can. We keep each other going and she is my best friend and has been forever. Though as a kid i was so confused as to why mummy go so angry and why she had to disappear to a dark room to sleep and be alone. Luckily she has my dad who was the one who alerted her to the fact that she may have a hormonal problem many years ago and despite her struggles and agression at him at times he has taken it on the chin and stuck by her. She in return has given him as much love and support as she can in everything he has done. It sounds like your mother now has a good man in her life who can be her pillar of strength also as you at 18 are still too young to take it all on by yourself. Just be an ear whenever you can for her and realise it is simply ramblings of a mad woman and to take none of it on board! I say 'mad woman' with the utmost sensitivity and respect as I am often that raving, ranting, bawling melodramatic person when i call my mum and she just stays calm and never takes it on board because she truly understands that it is not the young woman that she nurtured and raised and that I will bounce back. She just keeps telling me that it is not me and it will all be ok again. I do the same for her where possible but luckily she is towards the end of it and will head into menopause in a couple of years.

You say your mum takes a lot of medication. Does she exercise? Has she tried things like hypnotherapy, acupuncture, yoga or other natural forms of treatment? Luckily i was raised by a mum who avoids pharmaceutical drugs where possible opting for relaxation and natural techniques. I know that when i am keeping my yoga classes regular it really does keep things under control. Has she contacted someone who specifically deals with hormonal problems? Progesterone cream? Bioidentical treatments? Suzanne Somers has also written a really fantastic book about her struggles also.

I don't mean to scare you but my problems didn't begin until i was about 24 so just be very careful and seek as much support as early as you can. I was lucky that my mother could recognise it in me early and has got me onto treatment.

I hope this offers you some insight. Being able to share my story with others and lend some support also helps me to realise i am not alone and this condition does not define who i truly am as a person and even in my darkest days i have so much to be grateful for and live for. I could talk for hours about this but better do some work!