I am very confused and very scared. I have no idea what's wrong with me. Please help!

**April May** · 10-23-2010 02:29 AM

Okay, so when I first got my period at like 14, it started out normal. Then as I got older, it was fine, and around 17, there was a lot of stress in my life and my period just stopped. I'm not underweight or overweight, I didn't get really sick, and I was and still am a virgin, so I know it wasn't getting pregnant. It wouldn't show for a few months, and then I'd get it. Wouldn't show, and then I'd get it again. A really random cycle. I went to a gynecologist after I felt a lump up inside me, and she checked me out and said I'm totally fine, and that my random period cycle deals with my mom and grandma, who also had spotty random periods.

Now here's the big problem;

I have a boyfriend now, who is very physical. We haven't had sex yet, but have done clear enough everything in the book leading up to it. The only thing he's put inside me is his fingers, but afterwards, I bleed. Not a lot, but about a teaspoon of blood, and there will be chunks of dried blood on his fingers afterwards and it is all just really gross. (I should add in that he has yet to make me cum FYI) And then for the next few days I'll be spotting, but it will all be dried blood whenever I check.

And then, when my period DOES finally come around, it is all blood-clotted and usually doesn't last very long. I'm really worried! I don't want to be infertile or have a messed-up uterus or anything like that! Does anyone know what could be wrong with me?

**shweedart** · 10-23-2010 03:46 AM

I wouldn't worry too much just take a trip back to your gyno and dont take no for an answer, if she says your fine with no explanation as to why, ask her what other possibilities there are. Or simply ask for someone else to examine you.

**LanaBear** · 10-23-2010 12:31 PM

If you are not regular, him fingering you may just be 'triggering' the old lining and causing the bleeding.

If you haven't been to the Dr for a while, maybe go back for another check up. You may want to consider some form of birth control that will help regulate you.

**oncebitten** · 10-26-2010 08:48 AM

definitely get more than one opinion! whatever it is, it sounds off, but don't freak it out because it will just make you feel worse. Don't come to any conclusions until you've ogtgen several opinions and i hope everything works out for you!