I feel stupid & helpless...

**hockeylover** · 09-27-2011 09:06 PM

Yes I know that I may be a younger age , but still it'll happen to everyone eventually. It just happend to me sooner than I expected... I was with a guy & we are reallly really close . It just eventually happend one night I gave him a hanjob , he had a condom on it & everything we he ejaculated so it wouldn't make a mess . Once that happend he went to the bathroom cleaned up & washed his hands .later into the night we got more obertired. & then after wards he fingered me. He was sweaty and I'm sure he's was sweaty down there also, but if he didn't clean up properally but I'm sure he did , then later fingered me even thou his hands were dry . But if he touched himself before that . Could it be possible to get pregnant that way ? I don't have a mom or anyone to ask , I don't get my period till the weekend & this has just been bothering me . I know I'm a stupid teenager but please don't judge me , I just need answers

**Mes T** · 09-27-2011 11:13 PM

I know it can be easy to get paranoid about pregnancy, especially when you're first starting out physical relationships, but... You gotta understand that sperm are not super-mutant-alien creatures that can magically appear inside your vagina out of nowhere.

Your boyfriend's hands were dry, that means the sperm were out in the air long enough to die.

The only way you can get pregnant is if a glob of sperm gets into your vagina. This can happen if your boyfriend ejaculates inside of you (and you're not on birth control), or if he decides to ejaculate onto his fingers and then immediately stick them inside of you (not sure why any sane man would do so but whatever).

You don't have any reason to worry, so relax. However I would recommend doing some independent research on sex, pregnancy, etc to prevent future worry. You're probably not getting this education at school, so may as well take matters into your own hands.

**hockeylover** · 09-28-2011 09:16 AM

Thank you , that helped me a lot !

. But I will do reserch from now on , because our school doesn't teach that course anymore . I was wondering if its true that if you do something with a guy you don't get your period for a month ??

**Mes T** · 09-28-2011 07:01 PM

Nope that's not true - doing things with a guy doesn't delay your period, unless you're doing what I mentioned in my first post. However there are lots of things that CAN delay your period, such as stress, change in diet, age (it's particularly changeable during teenage years)...

I can see why someone might assume what you said, though. Let's say your friend fooled around with a guy AND was really stressed around the same time. Later she realizes her period is delayed and jumps to the conclusion that it had something to do with the guy, when in fact it was probably just coincidence.