Odd period this month... Please advise.

**LindaL** · 12-07-2011 04:49 PM

This is y first blog, ever... My hubby & I have been together for 6 yrs, of which we have been married for 1 yr. I am 35 yrs old and my husband is 45 yrs old, so there is an age difference. We are sexually active, I want to get pregnant and he's really not excited about it but said he would "do it for me", yet he continues to pull out and making excuses..ect. He already has two kids from 2 different women. I got my period on Monday 12/5/11, it was very light pink, nothing on my pad, the 2nd day still very light but brownesh color.. andthe third day, today, a little crampnig but still very light.

Does anyone know why this is happening??

Thank you so much for listening :-)

**lizzardb63** · 12-07-2011 08:16 PM

It may be implantation bleeding. Is this when you would have normally gotten your period? Even if it is...it may be implantation bleeding. Has he ever ejaculated in you, or has he always pulled out?

Are you stressed out for some reason, changed your diet, medication, or exercise routine? These can all factor in a strange period here and there. If you don't get your normal period in about a week, I would take a pregnancy test. At least then you would know for sure if you were pregnant or not. If it comes back negative, I would chalk it up to just having a strange period.. If you still are not conviced take another one a week after that, just to make sure. (Sometimes a person can test too early, causing a false negative). Have you had any other symptoms other than the cramps? Tender breasts, tiredness, out of breath, moody, backaches, darkening of aereolas? These can all be signs of pregnancy (but unfortunately can also mock PMS)

**LindaL** · 12-08-2011 08:57 AM

I'm not sure if he ejaculated in me. Feels like he did, but not sure, I know that sounds crazy!

I do see blood (with clots) only when I wipe, but nothing on my pad. So, I’m thinking its been too long and too much for implantation bleeding, if there is such a thing. I do feel tired during the daytime, I find myself taking long naps and getting hungrier, early in the day. No darkening of aereolas though. Maybe I’m just depressed.

I just really want to conceive, all my friends, my sis who’s a year older then I, have kids and I just feel like my clock is ticking. I get depressed and I get worked up the most when I start my period. Every time I bring up the subject of having kids my hubby either ignores me or changes the subject and it turns into a argument, he states “You talk about this everyday, that’s why I ignore it”. And when I get seriously upset about it he states “You know I don’t want to have kids, I’m just doing this for you” which makes me feel just worst.

I can’t really talk to anyone I know about this as I feel humiliated to say…” My husband doesn’t want to start a family with me” yet he has 2 kids from 2 different women, his first wife and then his ex girlfriend”.

Do you think I’m over reacting? Maybe I should just stop talking about it to him.. Who knows!

Thank you for your response, I really appreciate it!

**lizzardb63** · 12-08-2011 10:24 AM

It does sound like you're under a lot of stress, so that may be why your period is weird. There is such a thing as implantation bleeding. Usually occurs about 2 weeks after the egg is fertalized.

No, I do not think you're overreacting at all. What worries me the most is he keeps saying "I'm just doing this for you." Does that mean once/if you concieve you're expected to take full responsibility for the baby and he's going to hold it over your head when it comes down to things he has to do to help like "You're the one who wanted this...not me." Also- he cannot just dismiss your feelings just because he doesn't want to talk about it. He is disrespecting you and you shouldn't have any reason to feel guilty. Besides that, why does he say "I'm doing this just for you"...when he really isn't doing ANYTHING?

Did you two talk about having children before you got married? Was this something he told you he would or wouldn't want in his life (after marriage)?

**LindaL** · 12-08-2011 11:19 AM

He says he doesn't want to have any more kids because he is "too old" of which I beg to differ. He is a 45 yr old man & in my opinion, that is just the ripe age for men now a days to have kids... Yeah, I knew that he always felt this way about having kids... but then again he felt this way about marriage too. It took him 5 yrs together, not to mention relocating from NYC to the midwest with him to be closer to his sick (old age) mother, to marry me. Plus, back home (NYC) a few years ago, I got pregnant, wanted to have the baby and he was very traumatized, completely unhappy, in fact angry about it. We lived together then, we were going to break up because of this. Among other reasons which is too long of a story to get into, I ended up having an abortion at 20 weeks.. Always regreted that decision! I was depressed for 2 years after that.. Took alot of self forgivness and meditation for me to accept and live with the decision I've made. Thank you

**lizzardb63** · 12-08-2011 11:44 AM

Yikes. It sounds like you've got yourself in a pretty tough situation. It's so unfortnuate that, that had to happen and that you have to go through this. It doesn't sound like he is going to budge in his decision of not wanting kids, and if he was angry at that time about you being pregnant, it wouldn't be any different this time. There is no reason to be angry about a baby, especially if you're married, love each other, etc. I feel bad, because I don't have the right advice for you as I wouldn't know what to do myself if I were in this situation. Hopefully one of the other men/women on this site can help. I wish you the best of luck though, and do hope that you're pregnant and get what you want, and if you're pregnant, your huband comes around and realizes what a special gift a baby would be.