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Old 10-20-2008, 07:42 PM
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Question The Other 90 Percent ?

OK, I've thinking on this ever since I heard it. I have a feeling other people have heard it or at least read it.
It's sort of a , well I forget the type of saying it is, so I just repeat it and you can call it what you want. I know lets call it a Mind-Set, mental health right?

Basically life is made up of 5% of Tragedy, we all have them right? Then it's made up of 5% Euphoria, those are the times that make Life so enjoyable, wonderful, exciting, fun, right?
OK, but what about the other 90% - Mundane, me thinks about it, ugh, mundane, ugh. You know, we sometimes say oh, this is so mundane.

So I'm looking for comments, tools,tips,tricks, and just good plain simple solutions to help us all out to live this Big 90% of our life out better. The old question of what do you do or would you do if you think about more, so it's not so mundane.That way maybe we'll get the Mundane issue widdled down a little, and hopefully make life a little more enjoyable - Post Away

1 more comment, my little 2 cents to this. I try, and, (I'll be the 1st to admit I don't always succeed) y'all know me by now, to be thankful for just being alive and having another day at forging ahead along life's pathway - Thanks!
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LLL, I would think you would be the 1st on this to post!
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LLL, I would think you would be the 1st on this to post!

Well you were the first one to post... So way to go on that one.
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Honestly, I dont know where you numbers come from but they are horrible.

You are only giving 5% for happiness... Dont you think that is just a recipe for disaster. Some of the most successful people in the world would attribute there success to them imagining it every day. It is practiced very often in the self help world.
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Let me tell you about a concept in pick up. Its called Dynamic social homeostasis. Which is the balance between the drive to protect ourselves from others and the drive to align ourselves with others.

Along this same concept is that between the balance of Health, Wealth and love. Success and deficiency in one will permeate and greatly effect the others. For example, You can increase your success in love by maintaining or improving your wealth and health. This same principal is also taught in some religions. Once all three of the fail or you fail to maintain them its considered the "Great collapse" (sickness, poverty, and loneliness)

Health neglect: If you have wealth and love but are lacking in health then eventually you will be unable to maintain your job and your love live will soon dwindle.

Wealth Neglect: If you dont have any wealth then eventually you wont have the resources to sustain your health or your love.

Love neglect: If you are healthy and wealthy then your loneliness will most likely lower your productivity and lower your self esteem (mental health) which in tern will effect your health

What you have to do is rate yourself from 1-10 in each category and see where you stand and take the appropriate measures to fix it.

By the way: Live by one simple rule

"YOU WANT SOMETHING IN LIFE.... GO GET IT!"

Hope this helps

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Another note:

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So I'm looking for comments, tools,tips,tricks, and just good plain simple solutions to help us all out to live this Big 90% of our life out better. The old question of what do you do or would you do if you think about more, so it's not so mundane.That way maybe we'll get the Mundane issue widdled down a little, and hopefully make life a little more enjoyable - Post Away
A big thing with me is that in the beginning of the day i have a little note book that I write in. In that notebook I write my plans for the day... Something that was different then yesterday. Something that will make that day an enjoyable one to look back on.

I try to live my life to the fullest. I always ask myself. What was so significant from today that i will remember next week. Thats what my note book is for. On the front page it say

"Have no regrets!"

It was just something I thought of one day and made my life an adventure to live.

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I try,
You really should eliminate this mindset of "trying"

Trying has a hidden meaning of not giving it your 100%. Think to yourself what does the word try mean. It means giving it a respectable effort but not a 100% effort.

Why is this dangerous? Its dangerous to your growth because once you fail you can back-wards rationalize the fact that you didn't give it your 100% therefore you are not a failure. Its just our Hidden ways of protecting ourselves.

Let me tell you "It is in failure that we grow as an individual" So dont be afraid of it and dont welcome it just accept it!

Good luck

Hope this helps

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Well you were the first one to post... So way to go on that one.
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Honestly, I dont know where you numbers come from but they are horrible.

You are only giving 5% for happiness... Dont you think that is just a recipe for disaster. Some of the most successful people in the world would attribute there success to them imagining it every day. It is practiced very often in the self help world.
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The speech I heard came from my stepsons wedding rehearsal from his Father, I guess you would have had to be there because it was a great motivational speech - He does this as part as his living and is a great speaker, Local.
We can be happy in our soul every day if we choose to do so, there are times tho that happiness is affected and it decrease it's intensity.
You don't lose your happiness of life if your are happy, it could be diminished or increased.
I think one has to look at the word Euphoria,
It doesn't just mean being happy, it means a state of Intense Happiness and feelings of well being.
I refuse therefore, to believe that you my friend that you go about felling intensely happy every day of your life, wrong! If you say you do then as far as I'm concerned your not even human.
I'm certainly not trying to refute your encouraging comments but I'm looking to convey what the question is really all about. In your next post you say a very good thing about how to make the day a little less mundane, I commend you on that. I done that when I was on the road in sales. And maybe I should do it again!
If you truly think about it, if a person who lives to be 70yrs. old the # would come out to 1277 days I believe, you've experience Euphoria mind you, not just being happy.

Now the other tho't about this statement is the numbers are kind of like the Question you asked me the other day. It's sort of an Idiom, The percentages are fictitious. How could anyone come up with the true numbers anyway.
The tho't of the whole statement is to get one to think on how can i live life to the fullest everyday not just the 90% Hope you see what I'm saying.

Now I know I said all that to defend the Statement ,question, whatever. but I wanted to make sure that we are on the right page .

You are challenging my brain right now and I need that, thanks for your comments, they are very well taken.
Remember these thot's are also for the whole WH forum.

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You really should eliminate this mindset of "trying"

Trying has a hidden meaning of not giving it your 100%. Think to yourself what does the word try mean. It means giving it a respectable effort but not a 100% effort.

Why is this dangerous? Its dangerous to your growth because once you fail you can back-wards rationalize the fact that you didn't give it your 100% therefore you are not a failure. Its just our Hidden ways of protecting ourselves.

Let me tell you "It is in failure that we grow as an individual" So dont be afraid of it and dont welcome it just accept it!

Good luck

Hope this helps

Live laugh and love
I know what you are saying by the word "try" for some this is true - but the way I truly meant it was in it's purest form - Let's take a look -

The word try = To make an effort to do or accomplish (something); attempt: Tried to water ski, failed
I gave it my best shot 1 time on the lake when I had the opportunity, I was making an effort, striving. but, I failed. If ever I get the chance again I think I know what to do because of my past failings. The old adage of saying "try" is over kill, it's still a very intense meaningful word. If I would have said I tried with almost my strength on something, are you going to sit there and tell me no I did not because i said the word try, come on.


Ok. enough of me lets get someone else on this .
Thanks LLL very good tho't indeed, provacative!
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Thomas Edison is widely quoted that he didn't have (how ever many) 700 failures developing the light bulb, he just found 700 things that didn't work.
LLL has made a valid point regarding "try". If you read brain specialist, Shad Helmstatter's book, What To Say When You Talk To Yourself, you'll see why. It has to do with how the brain processes information.

There is a big difference between being euphoric and being happy. I'm under a huge amount of stress right now and nursing a wounded heart, that doesn't stop me from being essentially happy most of the time. It's a choice I make. Just as I chose to continue to love someone who 'hurt' me. I want one kind of relationship, he wants a different kind. That doesn't make either of us wrong or mean and doesn't mean we can't be caring friends. Again it's a choice we make. I chose to recognize that the only person I can control is me. Sometimes, actually often, the only thing we can control is our response to a situation. We can chose solution finding rather than blame, we can chose bemused or rueful tollerance rather than horn honking and flipping people off. The responses we chose have a lot to do with how happy we feel. When we chose anger, impatience, intollerance, any negative response we don't feel happy. Can we all do it all the time? Maybe in a perfect world, but we all slip, we have times when we are overwhelmed because we are human. Then we have strive to master ourselves and get back on track. When or how does acceptance of mediocore serve us? No matter what life hands us, we have to work to find the positive and make the best of it we can because if we give in we will never have a chance to reach the heights.
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Well said Wild Child!

The only time i really feel my life is mundane is when it forces me to slow down ... reflect and sit in a period of non development. I know when this takes place its a time to get rid of the old worn out habits or layers of self that are not longer needed in the journey to move forward. I know soon enough that time will be gone and life will swing into full action again and i better be ready with all cylindars firing because its going to be a wild ride!

Its been a slow 2 yrs for me frustrating, full of obstacles, set backs, and loss. Its all good i'm glad to see it all go. Its only a test of character and there are better opprotunities on the horizon waiting to be cultivated and explored. What makes it to my next cycle is suppose to be there what gets left behind needed to be let go of. If it didn't fade away then i would become bogged down and life would be heavy. My life works at peak when its light so i don't carry the past i see it, bless it and let it go.

Failure and loss only teach you how to win.....