what would you say is the reason why wemon self halm themself`s?

i self hamed cos it gave me a focus to the pain i was feeling inside. i felt guilty after but at the time it made me feel better.

Well many ppl start for different reasons its usually the same reason why they continue. I started because I had freinds doing it. We thought we were cool to carve our crushes intitials on our ankles and after doing that I couldnt stop.
When My parents would fight and I wasnt able to leave I would cut my self to help take me away from where I was.
A lot of times when I cut it was out of impulse hardly ever did I plan it not until it got really bad by then My parenst knew about it and I really had to sneak around to do it any more.
I can tell you I drove my parents sick with worry over me but at the time I was so sick that I couldnt see it.

I self harmed and still feel I need to now. I don’t no why I started to do it I used to cry my self to sleep every night and wake up in the morning and want to cry when I was cutting my self every night.

The first time I cut my self I was 16, I had just got home and cried all the way home, I suppose I did it because I hated myself for crying about what it was I was upset about. I took a knife from my kitchen and sliced my arm. After that I count feel nothing I felt the same, so I got some scissors and pulled them repeatedly across my arm in the same place until blood was dripping down my arm. I cut my self a further several time that night and each cut had to bleed or I felt nothing.

Ever since then if I felt I couldn’t cope I would cut my self across my forearm. it wasn’t only the feeling when I cut my self, it was the numbing feeling after that soothed me, I turned to harming my self when I was stressed with myself. The blood running down my arm made me feel good and I don’t know how to explain it.

I stopped cutting myself around three month after because a friend found out, she saw my arm. When she found out she was angry with me witch made me feel more guilty. I found it hard to try and explain why I did it to her and i find it hard to explain why I did it to myself.

I can’t understand my self why I feel I need to do it. About a month later I cut my self again I had too and I still feel the urge to this day to cut my self. I am thankful my friend saw it or I would still be cutting my self nearly every night, but I don’t know how to stop my self from wanting to do it. About a week ago I cut my leg and it felt so good because I haven’t cut my self for so long.

I want to get help for it but I feel that if I go to a doctors to try and get them to help me they will think I’m stupid, I am scared to embarrass myself, I don’t know how other people see it but I don’t see it as bad. Its effecting my life in every way, I used to be confident and happy and a nice person. Now i'm angry and it’s hurting me that I can’t be nice to the people I care about. I don’t know how to help my self, I can’t talk to my parents about it and I don’t no who else to talk to who will be able to help me.

I am 27 and I used to cut myself, I don't anymore but reading your story I felt the need to reply. Firstly I would like to say that I am sorry that you have been a victim to self harm. I totally understand the feeling of satisfaction that you get/was getting from doing this as I also had the same buzz. The numness was a great description.
I felt that I did it because I couldn't take the pain anymore of what was going on around me. boyfriend troubles, work home life etc.....
I couldn't stop crying and I would give myself severe headaches I felt that the only way that I could stop crying was to feel the pain somewhwere eles. I Can't remember what made me do it but then we do a lot of things we can't explain I mean why is the grass green?
Any way I could go on and on with my dilemas but I won't. what I found worked for me was to write down how I was feeling and WRITE AND WRITE AND WRITE. I would usually feel o.k by this time. The next day I would read what I had written and nine times out of ten I had the answers on the paper too. Sometimes we are looking for something, answers and solutions which are burried deep within ourselves. Give yourself the time and respect to listen to your mind body and soul. believe me your answeres are there.

i started to self harm over a year ago, its not all the time just when i get upset, or am angry at my self about something, its like i feel like am punishing myself and i like that, and like you its the only thing that seems to stop me from crying.
dont know what made me start doing it, but i just felt like ive got all this hate for myself inside, anyway my boyfriend found out about it, and basically said if you dont stop it your going to have to move out, but what bothered me more was my family noticed and thought it was him doing it to me. however, the next option for me, coz am such a drama queen was to start cutting my hair, as i felt noone would notice this, but theres only so many times you can do that before they do. so at this present moment in time am resorting to punching things, and hiting (as in a slap) myself as i feel noone will notice this, but when i get really upset i do start sracthing my self, which i get told off for but i cant help it.
the sick part is i think a part of me ones someone to see, and just forgive me for what ever ive done, i feel like by punishing myself they can now forgive me and eveything can go back to being ok. instead of waiting for time to settle it all, ive got alot of issues!!!! suppose that what happens though when you keep eveything locked in, part of me wants to go and speak to someone, but part of me just hopes it will go away. who knows what time will bring, probably alot more threads knowing me!

I actually halm because I felt doing it and also because I am happy...And it really feels good sometimes when you do that.

I just found out last night my 14 year old daughter has been cutting herself. I am not understanding her pain. All I can do is think it is from my divorce from her father. Her father was very emotionally abusive towards me and she was a witness to that. We were married 16 years. So I know the divorce has been difficult. We were seperated over 3 years ago. But about 6 months ago she started laying around, stop going to thinhs with friends. Then started talking with a boy. She allows herself to do anything a friend ask her to do, she never says no to anyone. She lost all self ocnfidence in herself. She comes home from school and sleeps all day, then can not sleep at night. She was getting on the computer chatting in the middle of the night while everyone was sleeping. We caught her chatting with boys about sex. We took away computers and cell phone since there was also text message problems. Then the depression got worse. Then last night I found out she is cutting herself on her arm. I am totally lost what to do. We have always had a close family. She always told me everything. I do not have kids who go into their rooms, we always hang out as a family. She knows we all love her. She has everything she could ever want. Maybe she has to much and I have spoiled her to much. Of course I am blaming myself for leaving her father. But I think it would have been worse for her to keep witnessing his behvior towards me and I did not want her to think it ws ok for a man to treat anyone that way. What can I do? She is crying out for attention?? How do I help her??