Hey guys my grandmother has recently passed away and it has left my family in a turmoil. My mother is bi-polar with schizophrenic tendency and she seems to have gone off the deep end here recently. she was doing fine up until two weeks ago that it began to really sink in that my grandmother was gone. Its just so frustrating having to deal with everything and my father is taking the brunt of most of this, while I am trying to help him out I am scared for my safety as well as my fiance's and also for the safety of my unborn child. as of right now she has not gotten violent but its really only a matter of time in my opinion. She has been talking to her self and has convinced herself that i am some how telling her that she is a horrible mother and everything else. I am just worried for her and I hate to see her like this but its so draining to me as a person because of everything that has happened. And I think what I really need is a few ideas on how to handle something like this. It's just all around frustrating and confusing. I have dealt with this for quite a long time but I need some help. thank you to all of you for taking time to read this. Goddess bless all of you.

has your mom gone off her meds? If so, get her to a dr and get her back on them. Its hard dealing with a person that is going thru this kind of mental trauma. They have a hard time seeing past their own feeling to see how they are affecting everyone else who is also dealing withthe lose and them.

Know this is not your mom her emotional issues have gotten the best of her. Contact a mental health counsellor maybe for some advice to see how to help calm her down. if there is a schizophrenic mental health society they may have free couselling to help her deal with this tramatic loss.

my heart goes out to your family

Thanks joy, as far as I know she has been taking her meds regularly like she is supposed to but most of the time her meds dont seem to do much of anything as far as that is concerned. It tends to keep her from going farther into it, and she has an appointment on friday, I think atleast that's what she's been telling us.

It is truly amazing hey..

Our hearts will go out and touch until we feel fear.

If this is your intution trust it.

I dont' know how far gone pregnant you are but you need to look after this baby at the moment.

Your Mother will suffer for months and months over the death of her mother regardless of her condition whilst you have to concentrate on this baby and it's needs to be a healthy born child.

Speak to your mother by phone , send her a card of love, stay with her, BUT concentrate on your baby, this is important now for you.

You can't be there all the time for your loved ones and sometimes something else becomes important.

In my books a baby is THE most important it needs to you live, grow and be, your mother has had years to do so and will continue to do so.

Take care of you at the moment and your child to be.

CW

Not sure how involved you want to get into your mother's life but it doesn't sound like she's on the right medication or she skips doses. Schizophrenia is a terrible disease and there is a lot of suffering involved in this illness.

I hope your father goes to the doctor with her and asks lots of questions. Maybe he can write everything down that he sees. There is hope for your mother but it helps if she has insight into her problems.

Please take care of yourself. You have every right to be concerned for the safety of your children. When folks are psychotic they can become extremely paranoid and scary.

Thanks everyone sorry that I haven't really been on lately. so here is an update for me and also my mom. As for me I miscarried because of all the stress and the accident that I was involved in. I have been living with my fiance since my mom has been dealing with everything. as for the medication bit I dont think that she is taking it the way that they want her to but she won't let any of us keep track of it because she wants her independence but in my opinion she has to earn it. she is driving again and I was forced to walk home from the mall its only a mile and a half but it was raining. I feel as though she doesnt really care right now she's alienating me from her life and its frustrating. I hope that she gets better but the doctors say that she may never return to who she was before everything happened. Its just hard for me to deal with especially with the accident that I was involved in I find myself wishing that I had been farther into the intersection just to escape from things for a while...... but I know that's not what I truly want to have had happened because I know that there would have been worse repercussion than what there are right now. my car has been totaled and the gentleman that I colllided with now has to have hand surgery. so that's the update for everyone and thanks to all of you for the support and just listening.

withered rose,

my heart goes out to you for that you have been thru. I know life must seem very confusing and complicted withthe loss of your grandmother, your mom acting uncooperative, and the loss of your baby. Know that thru great sorrow there also come great Joy. I hope you find peace in your day and you are taking the time to heal.

xx