Anyone understand addictive personality?

**luvclance** · 11-19-2008 10:56 AM

My boyfriend is a recovered alcholic. We have been together over two years and he is either addicted to me or his ex-wife or both. We have spent most of these two years together but he cannot get her out of his mind and will not stop talking to her. I told him he has to, or he does not love me enough. He cannot move the relationship on to total commitment while she is in his mind. He says that "loving enough is not an issue, that I don't understand the addictive personality. Is there anything I can do? I love him so much.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 11-19-2008 01:27 PM

Addictive personalities, do tend to abuse alcohol, drugs, gambling, which is classed as a higher addiction to say, drinking coffee ( and can't give it up) which is classed as a low addiction.

Is he addicted to other things? TV - certain shows, a certain food type,

He stated he has an addictive personality as to why he can't stop talking to his ex-wife, and you feel he is addictive to you as well?

What makes you feel his addiction to you?

Do you know the wife? Does she enter your world or only his?

A bit more information may help get answers to your question.

CW

**heryseshta** · 12-01-2008 07:41 PM

I actually have an addictive personality. It's frustrating. I sometimes feel clingy and realize I need to back off. If I ever was clingy toward another person, I have a hard time getting over them. That's just the way I am toward people anyways. Hope he can work it out. He needs to keep his personality in mind, that way he can stop before he becomes irritating.