how much does a 2yo remember about molestation?

**starvingforsex** · 03-03-2009, 08:57 AM

My son of 18(at the time) confessed to a therapist that he had molested his 2yo sister while she was sleeping. How much does she remember if at all? She's 14 now and sexually acting out, but hasn't had sex yet. I posted earlier that a 14yo boy had sent a text pic of his penis to her. Upon reading all her texts to and from them, she had refused to send one of herself. I don't know if taking her to a therapist and bringing up this molestation would do more harm then good. What if she doesn't remember and we open a can of worms that could make things worse than ever. I am at my wits end. Could this molestation be in her subconscious and not actively remembered? How could be affecting her now and in the future....Should she be be told?

**Hopeless Dork** · 03-03-2009, 03:02 PM

If it trully stopped at 2 she may not remember it at all. Are you positive that it stopped then, I know you said it was some time before you found out what your son had done, is there any possibility it went on any longer than that?

I think that at her fragile age, bringing it up now if she doesnt remember would serve no positive purpose. Her body is changing, shes going through so many social pressures and having this thrown at her will likely cause more damage than good. There will be the feeling of betrayal, any guilt for brother being sent away etc.. just so many things there.

Sexting etc.. unfortunately its not really acting out in a wierd sexual way or abnormal, its something that should be stopped and talked about , but so many kids are being influenced with the likes paris hilton sex tapes, girls gone wild dvds, cell phones with cameras, all there friends doing it etc.. I don't think its something that you can associate with her abuse, its just a problem right now with young kids in general that needs to be dealt with in some way, I don't know which way.

If you feel in your heart that you would like to talk to her about what happened, and you think she does not know it, I'd suggest waiting until she is out of her teenage years and have this discussion with her as a young woman/adult that would have more life experience and know not to blame herself and not have to grapple with what happened while life is already so difficult.

03-03-2009, 08:57 AM	#1
starvingforsex VIP Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: shrewsbury, PA Posts: 31	how much does a 2yo remember about molestation? My son of 18(at the time) confessed to a therapist that he had molested his 2yo sister while she was sleeping. How much does she remember if at all? She's 14 now and sexually acting out, but hasn't had sex yet. I posted earlier that a 14yo boy had sent a text pic of his penis to her. Upon reading all her texts to and from them, she had refused to send one of herself. I don't know if taking her to a therapist and bringing up this molestation would do more harm then good. What if she doesn't remember and we open a can of worms that could make things worse than ever. I am at my wits end. Could this molestation be in her subconscious and not actively remembered? How could be affecting her now and in the future....Should she be be told?

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03-03-2009, 03:02 PM	#2
Hopeless Dork Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: United States Posts: 1,238	If it trully stopped at 2 she may not remember it at all. Are you positive that it stopped then, I know you said it was some time before you found out what your son had done, is there any possibility it went on any longer than that? I think that at her fragile age, bringing it up now if she doesnt remember would serve no positive purpose. Her body is changing, shes going through so many social pressures and having this thrown at her will likely cause more damage than good. There will be the feeling of betrayal, any guilt for brother being sent away etc.. just so many things there. Sexting etc.. unfortunately its not really acting out in a wierd sexual way or abnormal, its something that should be stopped and talked about , but so many kids are being influenced with the likes paris hilton sex tapes, girls gone wild dvds, cell phones with cameras, all there friends doing it etc.. I don't think its something that you can associate with her abuse, its just a problem right now with young kids in general that needs to be dealt with in some way, I don't know which way. If you feel in your heart that you would like to talk to her about what happened, and you think she does not know it, I'd suggest waiting until she is out of her teenage years and have this discussion with her as a young woman/adult that would have more life experience and know not to blame herself and not have to grapple with what happened while life is already so difficult.