wild child that is certainly thought provoking, i really appreciate your practical point of view, although i dont have a well paying job at the moment. i do have some good asset. ie a two storey house overlooking the beach, superannuation, a car etc, which i have worked hard for, i am now looking at renting in the city, but if we decide to settle their, i can certainly sell my house here and buy a small place there. if i can get past my feelings of uncertainty he has probably done me a favour. i am sorry for your story though, the message you give has certainly been gained through hard experiences, thats for sure.