O.C.P.D.
I have started an O.C.P.D Forum.
The Symptoms of O.C.P.D. are as follows (it is NOT the same as O.C.D.):
A pervasive pattern of preoccupation with orderliness, perfectionism, and mental and interpersonal control, at the expense of flexibility, openness, and efficiency, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by four (or more) of the following:
[1] is preoccupied with details, rules, lists, order, organization, or schedules to the extent that the major point of the activity is lost.
[2] shows perfectionism that interferes with task completion (e.g., is unable to complete a project because his or her own overly strict standards are not met)
[3] is excessively devoted to work and productivity to the exclusion of leisure activities and friendships (not accounted for by obvious economic necessity)
[4] is overconscientious, scrupulous, and inflexible about matters of morality, ethics, or values (not accounted for by cultural or religious identification)
[5] is unable to discard worn-out or worthless objects even when they have no sentimental value
[6] is reluctant to delegate tasks or to work with others unless they submit to exactly his or her way of doing things
[7] adopts a miserly spending style toward both self and others; money is viewed as something to be hoarded for future catastrophes
[8] shows rigidity and stubbornness
Last edited by CHANDLERS WISH; 11-26-2009 at 03:54 AM. Reason: Forum details edited. FAQ rules - not known to threader
Danae,
There are various people that have posted here on OCD and this may be helpful for them to see whether it actually falls into the catagory of what you have described above alternatively.
Wondering if you can broaden, 3 & 4?
The rest sounds very much like my ex-husband.
Do you also see, "never wrong", "no one can touch their valuables, even if it's cleaning a stainless steel fridge, their fridge or do you see that as OCD?
CW
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
OCD is not OCPD. OCPD stands for obsessive compulsive personality disorder. The difference between OCD and OCPD is that OCD is related to extreme anxiety or distress that which leads to intrusive or distressing thoughts, and with those thoughts comes the numbing from compulsive and ritual based behaviours. Like washing hands 15 times in a row before you leave the house will stop those intrusive thoughts (neutralizes the anxiety the person has at that time).
The DSM-IV-TR explains the symptoms exactly like the OP stated. This is a disorder revolves around perfection, everything must be "by the book" regardless of circumstance. OCPD takes over their lives, they must have everything right and follow all rules and the people around them cannot impede or change those set patterns. If there is a set number of steps to something like in some instructions and something does not go right they will become anxious and irritable.
They do not wash their hands 20 times, or check each appliance in the house to make sure they are off before they leave he house like in OCD. OCPD is entirely personality. Sure they may align their pencils on their desk, and keep their files in a very organized portfolio but that is the perfection that consumes their lives. Their "obsession and compulsion" is to have things be the way they want them to be.
To clarify numbers 3 and 4.
3. Basically they will choose to do their work before going out with friends. If they need to type a report and have it handed in at the end of the week they will spend every minute they can analyzing every word, going over every punctuation error, checking that everything is aligned right. A lot of the time that kind of perfection leads them to not meet their deadline because they are never satisfied with the work that they do, thinking that "it could have been better".
4. To sum up, people think they are rude and cold. They remain rigid when it comes to their beliefs about moral and ethics and no one can change their mind.
Last edited by ItsASecret; 11-26-2009 at 11:11 AM. Reason: added the word neutralizes
There are those who believe that dictionaries should not merely reflect the times but also protect English from the mindless assaults of the trendy.
Mmmm...
3) Doesn't fit at all.
4) Strange, but mainly to me, on the "outside", he would be as nice as pie, and when their back was turned, say something to set off an arguement and then people would "assume" it was me, he was nice and I was the witch
But, yes, on the morals, ethics, beliefs, in fact he could never look at a magazine, without calling a woman a name, as if all women were... I could go anywhere, but together, if a man looked at me, he would eye them to the point sometimes I thought there would be a fight, he would say they shouldn't be looking, your my wife.
7) Definately a miser, would allow me to pay for holidays and what we spent "on that holiday", only taking a very small amount out to contribute, but, he never had left over surplus, spending like wildfire, however, would blame me when he had nothing left, yet he had his own account. Plus would have to pay any bill that came in under his name, immediately, that day, have it stapled as paid and stored in a certain spot, assuming responsibility that it was done.
6) Most definately, everything had to be done his way, and correctly. But, he never did anything himself, including simple things, taking rubbish out, lawns, anything.
Not sure, but there were traits there for sure. Is this something you feel is passed on from a parent/grandparent or born with?
I think my ex was definately, also emotionally abusive, can these traits create a person to constantly be verbal, have someone on egg shells?
Haha, I don't care, I have been gone for over two and a half years and happy for it, but I'm also trying to understand a little, this bought a thought to my mind re-reading it..
Even in finalizing Divorce, he managed to make me feel guilty for only giving him 20%, yet he never contributed financially, I did so in reality I should have asked him for 50%, but he has this way...
His way...
Interesting.
CW
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
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