Jealousy Issues?

**Goodgirl93** · 12-29-2009 09:17 AM

I used to be the type to be jealous of every girl out there.I was uncompfortable with my body,looks,just everything.But I lost a lot of weight,and I'm much more compfortable with myself and now I love my body.I am a very confident person,but lately I've gotten back into my jealousy side.I get jealous of the smallests things. Maybe its because of all my guy problems this year? Especially about the friends with benefits thing.I dunno,but its been bothering me for sometime now.I'm not depressed,or under stress or anything.I'm not sure why all the sudden I'm like this.It bugs me.

Vent over.

**sperosi** · 12-29-2009 09:29 AM

i get waves of jealousy now and then, mostly when i am not happy with myself or the way certain things seem to be going. mostly happens when i am unhappy about me.

what else has been going on that may have triggered it for you?

**Goodgirl93** · 12-29-2009 09:39 AM

But that's what I don't get...I honestly happy with my body,and my looks.Its just I get jealous of the dumbest things.For example,I get jealous of my sister all the time because she is bigger busted than I am,and she calls me a member of the itty bitty t*tty committy.But I am actually happy with my breasts now.but somehow I still get jealous of her.Also,the last few days,she has been talking about finally having a child,and I'm super happy for her,but then I think of how I may never be able to have children.

And nothing else has been going on.Just the same ol same ol. That's why I'm so confused.

**KMonte85** · 12-29-2009 09:40 AM

jealousy is an easy emotion to have - we're all guilty of it, even if only marginally... especially (as sperosi mentioned) when you are not happy with something that is going on with you or in your life.

One thing to remember is that the grass is not always greener... someone might have something you want which makes you jealous, but you can bet that they probably have a whole host of other things in their life that you wouldn't ever want. Focus on what YOU have that makes you happy... it helps to get the attention off of what you don't have..

**Goodgirl93** · 12-29-2009 09:48 AM

I'm generally in a giddy,and bubbly mood.I don't have any worries right now in my life as far as family,or family health,or even my health at the moment.like I've said,I used to be very uncompfortable with my body,and I was not confident.Now I'm the complete opposite.its like I woke up and all the sudden I'm totally jealous of everything.

**Texinator** · 12-29-2009 10:01 AM

Jealousy is a fear based emotion. It's not surprising that you might be jealous of your sister and her baby talk if you are afraid that with your PCOS you might not be able to have kids. At least adoption would still be an option then.

Lots of women worry about their breast size, but aside from a few superficial idiots that'll base their opinion of you on your boobs, most guys won't care much about size and shape.

What other things make you jealous?

**Goodgirl93** · 12-29-2009 10:12 AM

Oh I would definately adopt.

No doubt of that.I guess it just bothers me that it wouldn't actually be my baby.Sure it saves 9months of misery and pain,but i'de rather go through that to say I had my OWN child.

Adoption is definately a consideration for me though.

I've worried about my breasts for a while now.But I've learned to love how they look.Hearing lots of stories on here,I'm happy with what I have,but I still get jealous of my sister.It does bother me when she says stuff about my breast size though.So I just tell her shove it.She jokes with me though,but I guess I've never been able to really take jokes kindly when they involve my breast size.

Not having a bf is kinda putting me over the edge.And lemme tell ya,Joey is not helping the matter.I like having a cuddle buddy around.Someone to hug,kiss,lean on,and talk to about everything.And when I don't have that,I get jealous of people who do have that.

**Texinator** · 12-29-2009 10:31 AM

Why, what's Joey doing?

Well, it sounds like you have a lot of love that you want to share with someone else.. but don't go and get a boyfriend just for the sake of it. It's better to be patient and wait for someone you're compatible with than to settle for less than you deserve. And rather than be jealous of happy couples, maybe you want to try to be happy for them and think of them as something to which you'd like to aspire. Think of it as a reassurance that, yes, you can be happy like that too some day.

**uta** · 12-29-2009 10:45 AM

Sometimes jealousy can be a sign of a loss of control. eg. not being in control of a guy liking you. He has eyes for someone else now. It can also mean that you do care for someone. Then again, if someone knows this they feel they have a power over you

**Goodgirl93** · 12-29-2009 11:28 AM

Originally Posted by Tex

Why, what's Joey doing?

Well, it sounds like you have a lot of love that you want to share with someone else.. but don't go and get a boyfriend just for the sake of it. It's better to be patient and wait for someone you're compatible with than to settle for less than you deserve. And rather than be jealous of happy couples, maybe you want to try to be happy for them and think of them as something to which you'd like to aspire. Think of it as a reassurance that, yes, you can be happy like that too some day.

Joey is being sensitive and nice. Grr.That's a bad thing cause he's trying to get to me...and it's kind of working.

Aw that's a good way to think of it as Tex. Thank ya sweetie,that did make me feel better.I don't plan to rush into things with a guy.I'm not the type to date someone whom I'm not compatible with.I was very compativle with Joey.Just not about the whole sex thing.Although I'm jealous,I do feel happy for people who have great relationsip.My sister has like a fairytale relationship.its the cutest thing.And I really am so happy for them.