Thread: Unhappy

Hi Cali

Big Hug

There are many people crying and depressed this time of year. They just do it at home alone. Whether its relationship failure, unemployment, sickness, loss or whatever. I had a little cry too last night. I hope that 2010 is better than 2009, time will tell.

Your unsettled at the moment in new surroundings 5 weeks at time when families tobe together is always going to be hard.

Your daughter is getting older and she naturally would be leaving home in a few years anyway, it's just a bit sooner than you were prepared for. Be glad this will help her grow into a women.

You son will adapt given time.

For you all I can suggest is you put yourself out there and join a few clubs or part time college, yoga, meditation, pole dancing lessons or something.

Make it clear to your husband this is the last move unless it's back to your home town.

It's hard to appreciate what you have when you're low. Look around you have two lovely kids a husband that is sane sober and faithful.

If you want to inject a little more vava-voom with the old man take him dancing or the theatre or a walk at the weekend. Just being together and chatting. Maybe spice up you sex life it's a good mood enhancer and a good bonding thing with you husband.

Try and look for the positives in life. Easily said I know.

Set yourself some achievable life goals for the next few months

Hope this helps

Fb

Take it from someone who has been there, go see a doctor and say exactly how you are feeling and what is going on in your life. You don't need to be feeling sad. This is the worst time of the year for many people. I live here in Manitoba, Canada and it is darn cold today (for the past week in the -30's with windchill). I like to do things outdoors, I find it really helps me stay positive but for the past week, I am feeling down also. Not being active is one of the contributors you are feeling down. If you are also dealing with some depression, not being able to go outside or just be active will make the gloom even gloomier. Sometimes you may just need a mild anti-depressant, just the thing to make you have a different outlook on life and trust me it does make a difference. I have been on Effexor for about 6yrs now. I suffered a major breakdown and was unable to work for 18mths. I have moved far and fast from that point in my life and I am so greatful to the drs, friends and just people out there willing to help. Joining a group, say a yoga class or whatever you are interested in would be one of the tools to put in your bag to use later on when you feel down again (if you ever do). You need to have many tools to try to help you get out of this rut and you will pick up many along the way. So where ever you are if you can bundle up or whatever and try really hard to go for a walk, best time is when the sun is shining if possible and check out some of those fitness clubs or something you have been interested in for awhile but have yet to try. ALSO a major helpful tool is a JOURNAL. I cant say enuf about one. It has helped me many times in my times of sadness. You are allowed to write whatever you wish in it and you can choose to have someone read it or not. It's up to you. Well take care hope I have somehow helped you. If not I'm here to listen.