Going round and around...and around and...

**kerry-** · 01-31-2010 11:58 AM

Eugh I just don't know how I feel anymore

It goes from feeling awesome like I can do anything and take on the whole world to feeling like I've just been dropped into a big pile of(EDIT ) On the downers sometimes I feel very depressed but most of the time I just feel...empty? Like nothings real I'm just floating around. Feels like there's just nobody there. I feel like I have no real friends, except one. And someone who is supposed to be like my best friend barely sees me anymore because she's just with her boyf 24/7 always happens. I've just given up if she won't make the effort why should I? And what's worse is she knows I'm having a hard time right now, well I told her I got referred to a psycharitrist (sp?) and that was it. The only thing that makes me feel better right now is alcohol which I know isn't the best option but sometimes it feels like the only one.
Sorry about this thread not much point to it I guess just feel so trapped right now

**LedZeppelin** · 02-02-2010 02:55 PM

Hmm. As I dont know much about you it may be silly of me to attempt to give any advice but I figure it couldnt hurt. First thing you might want to consider doing is telling your friend how you feel about whats going on. If she doesnt care then shes not your friend and its time to forget about her.
You say sometimes you feel really great..What makes you feel great ? If there are certain things that happen or that you do to make you feel great, do them more often.
You say you have no friends? Maybe you feel lonely. So get out there and socialize. Meet some new people. Have some fun. Maybe even smoke a little weed ? Better fix then alcohol...Although neither are very good when dealing with depression. But alcohol is worse because technically it is a depressant, so in the long run its only going to do more harm then good.
From what I can tell there really is no major problem going on in your life right now, but like I said I dont know you. Anyways Good luck. Have fun, feel better !

**lis84** · 02-22-2010 02:37 AM

Hi

I often feel the same as Kerry, I seem to feel down alot of the time, that seems to be for no reason. I can be as happy as anything for about a week and then I know its not going to last, I seem to loose all my confidence and feel as though I have nothing in my life and feel lonely alot of the time. I often seem to search for new things in life and nothing really satisfys me. I really want to get out of this circle, no one really seems to get how im feeling and i feel as though im bringing others down with me and their starting to get fed up of me.

The way iv learnt to cope a great deal with this is to exercise iv just recently joined a gym, if I feel bored or fed up i go to the gym, it helps to clear my head. I do some classes like pilates aswell, which is really relaxing.

This is kind of my new hobby, if you have something you enjoy doing and look forward to it really helps alot

**Joy** · 02-22-2010 02:49 AM

I have a few suggestions that might help you cope in the down times.

1. exercise and diet - nothing helps your mood more than a little cardio to get your body moving and clearing out the toxins and nurtient rich food helps you balance your sugars, brain chemicals and all other body functions.

2. Energy management - you say one week you feel great and the next you feel zapped and empyt. Are you managing your time? When you feel great are you taking on the world like you think you can only to be self defeated by the pressure of not being able to deliever on anything you have promised.

3. say no to booze and drugs - really there are no answer at the bottem of that bottle and it may numb you from your feelings but alcohol is a depressant and those down feelings will only rebound and double. When you feel down try exercise, meditation - even a good cry to clear out those emotions.

we all feel down we all feel the pressure when circumstances are piling up around us. you are not alone and what i have suggested is no cure for the problems you face but they may help you cope and find solutions in the process of taking good care of yourself.

I hope you find peace in your day

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 02-22-2010 02:57 AM

Hey Kerry, your girlfriend isn't doing anything wrong, she has found someone and is happy and the time left, she loves you.

If your not happy in your life and everything seems to be negative, find the positives.

Have a deep think and write them down, they are there...

Then write a list of who you are, what you want and go girlfriend, ...

CW

**kerry-** · 02-22-2010 05:03 PM

Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH

Hey Kerry, your girlfriend isn't doing anything wrong, she has found someone and is happy and the time left, she loves you.
If your not happy in your life and everything seems to be negative, find the positives.

Have a deep think and write them down, they are there...

Then write a list of who you are, what you want and go girlfriend, ...

CW

Eeh..sorry huh? lol (gf part)

**WildChild** · 02-22-2010 05:51 PM

Try taking vitamin D3. Most people don't get enough and during the often cloudy, short days of winter they get even less. I was skeptical because I do work out side part of the time but it has made a big difference for me. I had gone from being the energizer bunny to just dragging and after a couple of weeks on the D3 was feeling much more myself.
It certainly can't hurt you and just might help.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 02-23-2010 03:15 AM

And someone who is supposed to be like my best friend barely sees me anymore because she's just with her boyf 24/7 always happens. I've just given up if she won't make the effort why should I? And what's worse is she knows I'm having a hard time right now, well I told her I got referred to a psycharitrist (sp?) and that was it.

Eeh..sorry huh? lol (gf part)

Okay, fair call. I commented on the fact she has someone in her life and people do change in that regard... They, seem to sometimes back off from the time they previously spent with friends.

So, when you told her you were seeing a psycharitrist what actually did she say? And, did she not call you to see how it went?

If not, and she said nada, sure, then she was only "using you" for friendship when she had no one in her life.. So, she's not a real friend.

You know, my Grandmother always told me we can count our friends on our fingers, one hand, throughout our life. The rest are called acquaintances and I believe in that.

I don't know how old you are, but maybe it's time to consider letting your guard down and making new friends, with the understanding that one will stand out and be true and the rest will be acquaintances...

It's very hard to be on your own in life, but if you don't change the pattern that's the way it will remain.

CW

**kerry-** · 02-23-2010 12:04 PM

Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH

Okay, fair call. I commented on the fact she has someone in her life and people do change in that regard... They, seem to sometimes back off from the time they previously spent with friends.

So, when you told her you were seeing a psycharitrist what actually did she say? And, did she not call you to see how it went?

If not, and she said nada, sure, then she was only "using you" for friendship when she had no one in her life.. So, she's not a real friend.

You know, my Grandmother always told me we can count our friends on our fingers, one hand, throughout our life. The rest are called acquaintances and I believe in that.

I don't know how old you are, but maybe it's time to consider letting your guard down and making new friends, with the understanding that one will stand out and be true and the rest will be acquaintances...

It's very hard to be on your own in life, but if you don't change the pattern that's the way it will remain.

CW

oooh see I thought you meant like my partner lol I was just a bit confused

sorry x