confused and low

**vi84** · 04-19-2010 04:28 AM

So I'm back at my computer worrying about where life is taking me. I've moved away for university, and its not going so well. I crave the 9-5 lifestyle that I used to have, where I had to get up, go to work, come home. I had a routine.

Up here, I can't seem to wake up in the mornings, constantly doubt myself, and don't enjoy what I do. There's the occasional moment of "ooh that looks interesting", but there's more moments of "what the does that mean, what am I doing, I don't know how to do that" etc.

Other people in my research group think I spend too much time on my volunteering, but at least I enjoy that. It is like having a part time job though, with proper deadlines, and I know that I have to complete things by a certain date, or the kids I volunteer with miss out. At uni, I know if I miss a deadline I can just hand the work in another day. Problem is, my literature review was due in February, and I'm not even half way through.

I just don't know how to write it, it takes me so long to do a page that it's taken since January to do 15 pages. At this rate, I'll still be doing it in 2012, when I'm meant to finish.

My supervisor is now exasperated with me, and has told me he's fed up with having to constantly motivate me every time he sees me.

I don't want to admit defeat but I'm scared of what will happen if I leave. The jobs market isn't exactly booming at the moment and so many people are waiting for me to fail I don't want them to win. I want me to win, but I don't know which option will enable that.

Do you think its time to see if I can leave? Or work out a way of having a month's break or something so I can catch up with myself?

I'm scared I'm heading back into a depression again, and it takes me so long to get out of it.

**air-om** · 04-22-2010 08:01 AM

know what, when i feel down. I set aside things but not forget and leave it behind totally. I make time to think which way is the best, what i need and what is needed of everyone.

Have you seen the "LAW of ATTRACTION" better watch.. because this thing helps me to motivate my self and my views of life.

**Beautiful Disaster** · 04-22-2010 03:52 PM

Not in any way trying to simplify what you're going through, but do you take vitamins? If so, do you take a B complex? If not.....I'd highly recommend it. Its the vitamin that helps you deal with stress and also seems to give more energy. Recently my friend was in a "funk" for what seemed like quite some time and I finally thought to ask her. She went out that weekend and started taking a B complex (or just a multivitamin if it has b complex in it), and that following Tuesday was raving about how much better she felt.

I dunno.....times are tough sometimes....and maybe you're dealing with depression beyond what a little vitamin B is going to help, but it's worth a try!!!

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 04-30-2010 08:05 AM

Sounds like there is less stress in a 9-5 job and comfort, your out of your comfort zone, trying to learn things you don't know about and feeling lost...

Well, you said it, "I don't what them to win" so you know the answer, tell your teacher you don't want motivation, you feel lost, you can't focus, what you want is more assistance, understanding and in that, your prepared to study more and "get it"...

Sounds more like "he has given up".. How are you expected to feel when the person teaching you, has a deadbeat approach?

CW

**jns** · 04-30-2010 08:53 AM

vi84: I understand how you feel on doing a paper. I have never been a natural at writing and procrastinate at something I feel that I haven't mastered yet. Still, there is a way to get through it.

The standard way of writing a paper is to read and understand the material, make an outline, make a rough draft and finally make a final report. I would add one layer, a partially filled in outline as a step before the rough draft. I also don't do things in layers, but rather as subjects as I master each one that is necessary for the final report.

I start to read and compile material, but when I get bored or uncertain if I can contain the scope of the report, I start the outline. I then sometimes glance over the material I have gathered to complete more of the outline. Then I may start to fill in part of the outline, or I may go back to reading and compiling. As I go on, I have more material read, more compiled, more of an outline, more filled in and when I have enough for a subject in the report, a rough draft of that subject.

When I have several parts of the rough draft finished, I can take some time to consider the final form. One key in the final form is the order of presentation of subjects. Also, if enough material has been reviewed to master the objective. Additionally, are some parts of the report too long.

After a while of doing this, you will be able to project how much time it will take to finish the report. Once that happens, much of the weight on your shoulders about writing the report will be lifted and it will be only a commitment of so many hours to get a great result.