life?

**Jayla2251** · 06-21-2010 03:56 PM

So I'm 22, work full time, no children yet. Been with the same guy for 5 years and I am pretty much completely happy with him. Lately though, Ive just been off. I think a lot. And I was like "wow, life is pretty shitty. You work all the time. Just to be able to live. Then I come home for a little bit, go to sleep. Start over." And I'm like whats the point? I'm not sucidal at all. I just dont understand it I guess and I feel like I'm starting to get overwelmed with this feeling of life is so shitty.

A lot of my stress comes from work. I work for my parents, they own a co. and I basically run the office. Which I resent. My older sister did it for 10 years then freaked out and left the job. She used to be very overweight and got gastric bypass so she changed a lot. And she hated the job so she quit. Last year we hired someone to help with the office work and then had to lay her off later. I just get pissed that I do everything to keep this office going (not the bussiness, the office.) And I'm not the one getting the huge paychecks. Not that I think I should be payed the same or anything, they've done their time. I have to answer phones ALL day long (including the 10+ that are her personal calls), and not everyone is so pleasent to deal with. Some days I dont even get lunch. I have to deal with customers and people. While my mother gets to come and go as she pleases, and doesnt even help me out when she is here by answering the phone or helping customers. I'm just frusterated. And now I wonder if this is the reason my sister left. Then the few days I take off here and there for being sick, I get calls all day long from her. Plus on the weekends. It's annoying! I just want appreciation for what I do for them. I dont even ask for the same pay as my sister was getting (more than I am.)

Then my family is weird. Always has been. Was only close to one sibling and she moved to Texas. (Im in Kansas). That doesnt bother me that much. What bothers me is all the bad choices they've made and it has basically made me the "favorite" which I dont want AT ALL. Not only do I see my mom at work, my dad calls a ton to talk to her and me. And it's always the same "no nothings new" since yesterday. I just want to escape from them!!!! I wish it was a "normal" where we kept in touch but it wasnt everyday, and evening deal. I love them, but its seriosuly starting to get annoying as .

If I could have a perfect life I would move so I wasnt so accessible to my family. And I would move to where it's colder lol (hot weather doesnt make me happy either!) I would be a "house wife" and a few kids and volunteer instead of a job.

Part of this post was to just tell someone how I feel. I can talk to my SO but he's just such a happy go lucky person, he doesnt get it. I dont know if maybe I should see someone. I dont think I'm depressed, but getting to the point of being completely overwelmed by it all.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 06-21-2010 05:19 PM

There's a lot of negative energy there mam

If you could have your perfect life, you'd be married with children, therefore not have to work, but as a hobby, volunteer a few hours.

You hate working under pressure.

You resent that your family who own a business potter and don't work as hard as you. And, you feel that your underpaid.

So, my suggestion is, "never work for family" just kidding but not really as I did the same thing, said no way... and went my own path.

But, seriously, you need to sit down with your parents and let them know, your flat, tired, need time out for yourself, a holiday. You also can't cope with the amount of work and it could be because you just need time out, but it could be that there is just a bit too much for you to handle. Let them know that you find the work mundane and you would like to spread your wings and see what else is out there but off course, wait until you secure something else and also they replace you. Let them know that you also want to find something that gives you a little more cash flow, as you have dreams and goals and your getting no where.

It's good that you are the "favourite" as it means they are proud of you.

It's good that they trust you to run the office, they probably don't help because you manage it well.

Remember, when they were your age, they worked as you do, and as they build the Company... They're older now and employ people to do the work, that's what running a business is all about. Your sister may have been older, the pay may be related to age, or experience, in hourly rates.. Don't begrudge them for being able to delegate.. It would have been hard work to get where they have gotten to...

If you are overwhelmed with it all, you have to start by talking... And, as it seems to be the job, that is getting you down, it's the employers, your family you need to talk to...

CW

**LanaBear** · 06-21-2010 06:51 PM

I work for/with family. It is HARD sometimes, but I've really gotten could at having a real solid line between personal and professional business relationships.

You would be amazed how much of a happier person you will be if you can get out of that situation if that line isn't solid enough.