Thread: Feel very down about myself :(

First of all, I think everyone feels atleast a little self conscious about themselves and about their boyfriends, so it's natural. I think you need to talk to your boyfriend about how you feel; if he assured you that he liked you and would rather be with you than some other girl, you might feel better? Don't cut yourself, because you DONT deserve to be punished or anything. Don't take your brother's pills because it could have a negative effect on you. Ask a psychiatrist or schedule an appointment with someone and tell them about how you feel if you think it's really serious or it gets worse. Be happy with your size, and remind yourself everyday that almost every woman in the world would trade their size D boobs to have a petite figure Good luck and think happy thoughts!

I don't sefl harm or medicate myself (simply because I don't have it in me) but I do understand everything you said as far as what your BF "thinks" and also problems with self image...
First let me say I agree with paranoid, you DO NOT deserve to hurt yourself and the pills can harm you besides just the possibly of overdose. They can affect your bodies filtering system that could effect your image in other ways (like gaining weight due to poor filtering of nutrients or other substances in your body.)
As far as your BF goes and what you think he "thinks" about, this is what I do when I am feeling really down, unattractive, and like he thinks Im not attractive or good enough. I talk to him. I let him know that I am just feeling really down and ugly. That I am worried he thinks the same and that he is looking for someone better. He then lets me know how beautiful I am, gives me a big hug and kiss, then tells me he loves ME and couldn't be happier. It seems boys just need to be reminded that all girls need that little extra attention and reassurance and same for some guys too. So next time you are feeling really down and out, tell him whats going on. Let him be there for you and imbrace the extra attention. Remember boys have short term memory and often forget the little things we girls need ; ) and PLEASE do Not do any more harm to yourself. If you find you need to do this, call a friend, family member, your BF or heck...go shopping even : ). Not to tell them that you are thinking about doing harm but just to get your mind off whatever is bothering you and if you can, to vent and let the emotions fly!!!
Good luck Kerry, remember all woman are beautiful no matter what the "norm" is!!!

I've had a big problem with thinking the same thoughts in relationships and it can be tortuous. Something that helps me is that every time I think he would want to be with someone else, I remind myself of my positive qualities. Such as if I think, "Wow, that woman is really confident and beautiful," I'll think to myself, "I'm also an attractive woman and I have a lot going for me." There are things about yourself that you're proud of, right? Like academics, or your job/career, or the way you're a good friend, etc. Remind yourself of the things that you admire in yourself whenever you find yourself thinking you're not good enough in some way.

If it gets really bad for me, I start trying to take my mind off it by "thought blocking". Every time a thought about your relationship enters your mind, stop it, and force yourself to focus on something else. It can be hard to take your mind off it sometimes, but almost always, when I come back to it, I see it more positively and feel better about whatever I was thinking about.

Good luck! I hope it gets better for you!