I recently seperated from my husband because of Domestic Violence and within two months, I started seeing someone. We have been together for six months now and things are going pretty smoothly, except I've been feeling insecure about the relationship. I feel like I still have emotional baggage from my ex and doubts arise everytime I start feeling I'm not getting enough attention from him or I'm not good enough. Then I push him away because I start accusing him of maybe cheating or not liking me anymore. He has been very patient with me and tells me that he does love me and that nothing is happening and it's all in my head. He hasn't done anything to make me suspicious. I don't know why I can't trust him and why I've just been feeling very needy. I was never like this before and it's bringing me down and it's making me depressed almost everyday.I really try not to let my emotions get the best of me, but it's been hard and I don't know why?
Has anyone felt like this before? Any suggestions?

i too have survived an abusive marriage, and actually had to go to a womans shelter and secretly relocate for my own safety. while some cases are worse than others, one thing stands true in most cases. after enduring that kind of abuse, it damages our rational thinking, and our ability to reason thru relationships properly. i would suggest doing some therapy, you can find low priced affordable therapy thru your county mental health dept, or group therapies thru your local domestic violence services. i had to do therapy for a while before being able to enjoy a healthy relationship... i kept sabotaging my relationships, and feeling insecure, suspicious and angry. therapy was the best thing that has ever happened to me, and i recommend it to all women who have surivived domestic violence... you owe yourself the gift of wellness and good emotional health. good luck. jamie

Thanx for your reply! you're right! I never got the proper counseling attention after coming out of my abusive relationship and I never really considered therapy for it. I just thought love and time would heal my emotional wounds. But it seems that's not helping... I'll give therapy a try!

I left my ex in 1999 and it took me a few years before i got into counceling. it's amazing just how wonderfull my relationship is now. i've been with the same guy for 5+ years now, he's wonderfull, he's trustworthy, and he's the most supportive loving man every. never thought that i could be this happy, yet i am.
i hated that feeling in the beginning of our relationship, when i first started therapy... that feeling like i was just waiting for something bad to happen. it's hard to be happy when everything inside of you tells you that eventually, that bomb will drop and you'll be hurt... that's the best thing that therapy did for me, taught me to stop expecting the worse, helped realize why i did that, and helped me accept good things for myself... and soo much more. i hope that you find a good therapist, and remember, if you're not comfortable with your therapist you have the right to switch. it took me a couple of therapists before i found one that actually did something for me. you have to remember that these people are hearing your life and secrets, so you need to feel comfortable with him/her otherwise you'll never get anywhere! good luck, i'm here anytime you'd like to talk, and i'm always on yahoo chat too. soo if you wanna know anything or talk, i'm available just reply and let me know!
jamie