Now I can't stop comparing myself to other women, celebrities and real life women who resemble them, who have the big breasts/small waist combo. What is wrong with me? =/
There are celebrities with small breasts which are known for being very hot.
Please type the following in google, because I cannot post a link here: "hot celebrities with small breasts"
Click on the first link that comes up. Please do that for me(I'm begging and I rarely do that)
I think you've taken all these things this ex-boyfriend of yours told you WAY too close to heart. The more insecure you allow yourself to be, the worse you're going to make things for yourself. It's up to you: do you want to obsess about this for the rest of your life? Or do you actually want to LIVE your life without reservations or hangups?
I think I realized I still care a lot about my ex's opinion because, sadly, I'm still very much in love with that hypocritical idiot.
I mean, for all the time we were together, he would constantly tell me it wasn't a big deal if he thought big breasts were hotter, and blah blah blah. He told me the same the other day when I told him I was still hurt by those remarks. He said I was overreacting.
I asked him how he would feel if I told him, hypothetically, that I preferred muscular guys with no body hair? He's not muscular (just thin) and he has body hair. He remembered that while I've been single, I've met a couple guys who fit this description. Yeah, these guys are attractive, but not enough for me. At least not as attractive as he is. He missed the "hypothetical" part of my question, though, 'cause he got so mad at me for saying I preferred "muscular guys with no body hair". I insisted I don't really prefer that but that it was just an example. He told me he didn't want to know a thing about me anymore, made a couple hurtful comments and told me to go with my "muscular hairless guys" and leave him alone.
It hurt. I still love him. this realization hurt too. But it explains why I still compare myself to celebs he has the hots for (Fergie, Salma Hayek, Scarlett Johanson, Monica Bellucci, a bunch of porn stars, etc.) and feel I pale in comparison. Still, I feel disgusting physically 'cause I'm not "ideal", and even more sad, because even though he's not worth it and I was the one to break things off, I still love him.
LOLOriginally Posted by Silly Girl
Sorry but this is funny and sad. He just proved your point very well.
We can only learn to love by loving. - Iris Mudoch, British writer
You feel inadequate because you feel you're inadequate for your ex, whom you still love. You can't move on with your life unless you get over him. Right now you want to be who he wants you to be, or who you think he wants you to be, or what you think he likes, but you can't go on like that.
That's rated R for Retarded. LMAO
I am a boob man from way back. All natural is my preferrence. My wife is B cup and I can't get enough of her. She can climax from breast suckling and that drives me insane! I love it. I found out, after trials and tribulations, that regardless of looks, bust size, leg length or what ever...if I can't have seriously in depth conversations with someone...about anything-and I do mean anything-then there is no relationship. I have found that a woman's mind...who she is-is the sexiest part of her. The spark-the real spark-when it occurs will be unconditional...and I mean TOTALLY unconditional.
Yes I like big boobs, my wife knows this and never misses an oppertunity to point out some big boobs to me, because she is very secure in her womanhood. However, if I see a smaller chested woman, I can be very attracted to her. I often see B cup women wearing t-shirts, braless, nipples hard, jiggling along with each step, sometimes visible, I can't stop looking.
I wish you the best...
At some point, you will meet someone who cares about the whole you. It took 32 years to meet my wife who is 10 years my senior.
Ooh! That poster looks familiar.... LOL! (Tex, you're alive!!!) LMAO!
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Back to the OP.... you deserve so much more, don't sweat it. If you feel inadequate now, I don't blame you. But instead of taking this to beat yourself up, and put yourself down, deal with it the positive way. Do activities that help you feel good about yourself.
Join a boot camp or a gym (it will enhance your physique), change your wardrobe and the way you do things. If you could, you might want to consider changing the color of your hair, or even have it trimmed. I know these are all superficial, but it could also works wonders. In most cases, our actions could determine our emotions, a couple of licensed professional counselors have constantly reminded me of that.
You might also want to consider some Aikido or belly dancing class, photography, pottery, painting, glass cutting - anything that would help to motivate you to enjoy life once more and just be you while at the same time being able to interact with various people - your age or older. Likewise, read more self-help books and try what they'd suggest. I'm now married to the man who broke my heart twice - but that's saying that when that happened, I didn't stop. I did what the beautiful people here in this forum had suggested me do. I also stopped communication with him and did some circular dating and almost moved on until he realized what's he missed, and asked me back and marry him.
This is not to say you should hang on to that loving feeling toward him. Feel whatever it is that you feel right now. Be patient with yourself, and you'll soon heal. In the meantime, while you're on a roller coaster with your emotions, try to get out and build your self-esteem back.
Last edited by caterpillar79; 11-12-2010 at 06:24 PM.
What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are but how you deal with incompatibility. - Leo Tolstoy
The clearest explanation for failure of any marriage is that two people are incompatible; that is, one is male and the other female. - Anna Quindlen
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...or just get yourself a boyfriend that wants to spend all day with your breasts in his mouth. Well, maybe not all day... gotta make time to put other parts of you in his mouth as well.
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