Thread: I feel unfeminine

What about your hair? Hair plays a big part in looking femenine, and if you have great hair (no matter if it's straight, wavy, curly, blonde, red, brunette, pink, blue, whatever...) it helps a lot. And it doesn't have to be long, although if you have shiny, pretty hair, grow it! However, if you prefer another style, it always helps to go to a salon and get a hairdresser to help you pick a style that suits your face best. It doesn't have to be long.

I agree with Hopeless. You sound like you have a thin body. Modelesque. This is a good thing. I mean, just because you have some "masculine" features, it doesn't mean you look unfemenine. Many models have "masculine" features. Like Agyness Deyn, and she hardly looks unfemenine. Make up and clothes make a difference, too. Being thin you can wear almost anything!

Also, eyes are usually pretty by themselves. Just because they're not enormous it doesn't mean they're not pretty. Play up your eye color, all eye colors are beautiful.

And you probably have GREAT legs! A lot of women would kill for great legs (me included, I have fleshy thighs, a bit stumpy), you're tall and skinny, so you most likely have these great legs, which I assure you, they DO NOT look like a man's legs (I haven't even seen you and I know this). Guys have very different legs than girls. So show of your legs with short shorts, mini skirts (or skirts in general), dresses and heels. This looks femenine and hot.

You know, your body sounds delicate. So work it. Almost no woman has "all femenine" features, even though sometimes we miss this. Just like not all guys have all masculine features, and this is good, it gives balance to our bodies and faces. I have seen many a "girly" looking guy, and it doesn't detract from their attractiveness, or the fact that you can clearly identify them as men. Same goes for women. I don't even think you look as masculine as you may think, so try not to worry.

Femininity does go in the mind more, though, like Hopeless said. So even though sometimes it's hard (I should know), just keep that in mind.

Oh, and about small breasts, I have B cups, and yes I admit I'm one of those insecure girls, but not really. I mean, what bothers me about having small breasts is that to me, small breasts are very femenine, they are just as good as big breasts. That's what I think. What bothers me is that most people and the media believe that bigger is better, and it irritates me because they're breasts too, they just have extra fat or mammary tissue, but in concept they're exactly the same thing, so why should size make a difference? It shouldn't!

So for the record, even though I'd like to have bigger breasts because I'm an insecure idiot who cares too much about what men think (and my ex hurt my self confidence badly with his stupid comments), it's not because I think small breasts are unfemenine. Rather, they're very femenine, but under-appreciated.

I have searched high & low to find someone with similar problems.... here is my story...I am 35yrs & always had strong features always got told I looked like "taylor dane", 2 unlimited" around when I was young always got told I was a stunner. I have very strong eastern looks as my grandfather was from yemen(saudi) so as you can imagine I have unique looks (used too) now, I am not 100% on if it is this but I feel it has a lot to do with I suffered from bulimia from the age of 17yrs & the only thing I can think of is that this has stripped some of my features away also I know age added but this male look came from out of nowhere & ruining my life I have big breasts curvy figure I still don;t get why people think I am a male I have really really long black hair ,make up,& done some glamour model not very much) when I was young??? and before you say its in my head I have been told to my face also kids have stated kids never lie not intentionally...The first shock came to my attention about 4/5 years a go I was talking to a man on a dating site on web cam then in mid convo he said "can I ask you something? did you used to be a man" as you can imagine I was devastated, a further 2 men went on to say this? kids have whispered to their parents "is that a man" once at a fleet foxes concert I over heard a girl saying to her BF the same too as you can imagine over these years I have become more n more recluse its eating away at me I travel to see my BF because I have too although he says that people look because I am beautiful (bless him)I know because I see people snigger or they are trying to work out if I am female also word from mouth is the source...Travel has become hard even to my local shop and any which way I can to avoid the house I will its crazy to think I used to have so much cofindence now I can't look people in the eye!!! on the tube I am sick with worry of humiliation & worse still I just had a nose job because I thought it might have been my arabic nose that was kind of the problem but no it hasn't changed a thing(except my bulimia has subsided and I gave up smoking)! All that pain & my BF money has done nothing I am at my wits end now I crave to get back into society to work to be a team but most of all for my son's to see a mother with cofindence....I can not explain how I look now but I am not an average person look I have tried different make up,I will be lighting my hair I was told that lifts you but isn't sad how society can really control your life it really makes me mad & sad...Sorry I needed to get this of my shoulders snuz if you need to chat I understand totally & if anybody knows any sites with this subject or any advice please let me know thankyou xx