thanks for all the help and update now; After a LONG time another doctor I saw sugested I was checked for vit d, and I am difficient so that explains alot of things, including getting down and not handling things and being tired 24/7. I have been so tired I cannot excercise. I am going to see a nurse because if I try to have sex it feels sore, although I am not menopausal!! we try using lubricants but it doesnt help. My sex drive is still vacant thou!!!! still not job!