he began to have memories of my brother (21 at the time) standing over him taking off his belt. He described overalls that he did have and the room in the house was described as I remember it.
Our oldest son was married last year but has gone through years of anxiety, depression, ocd. Meds never worked for him.
My husband was thrown out of my parents house after my son had told him (at 4) he was being touched by his uncle.
My mom has told him that my husband and I, had issues with prescription meds drinking.I dont think there was enough of this to create his anxiety problemsWelcome to the Forum hartnett...Another thing is that in kindergarten he told us his bus driver was touching him. We took it to the school dist. and he was interviewed etc. The poor driver ended up retiring. ( I still dont know if this was from the original incident.
Then, several years later he disclosed a landlord living near us was touching his younger brother. He thinks this is all post tramatic stress. I know this is old and involved but any suggestions? Should we break away from my family?
I have highlighted what I think are the important parts.
Firstly, I see two things, your son saw your brother take off his belt, he told your parents at 4, they ignored him, now believe him and basically are letting him cope with it, deal with it, standing by their son, ignoring you, your husband..
They are defending, using your drugs and drinking..
But, drugs/drinks, he could have been left alone alot, you two could have been fighting alot, he would have felt left out irrespective, that coupled with being ignored at 4 by his grandparents is enough to have huge anxiety and be angry....
You had your reasons and we forget our children when we are down, depressed...ourselves...
But what worries me is the continuation of his discussions, driver touching him, seveal years later, landlord touching his brother, this needs to be looked into more, his pain and suffering and non believe all those years, this could be a cry for help, it could be fictional... Maybe hypnotherapy can assist in this, I'm not calling him a lier but I am worried that this occured again and then to his brother, it sounds like a serious cry for help....
I am glad that he is seeing someone but he now NEEDS his parents to believe in him, to be there for him and in my opinon, the fact that your parents stated to him they believed him but are shunning him out due to her other sons being pastors and saving "face" for themselves, in their community, that is not being a parent, when you worry more about what people will say, think, be it old fashioned I feel that it is not love at all, and I would cut all ties full stop.
It's sad to lose family but you have yours, your child.. If your parents will not stand up for their grandchild, you stand up for your son as parents...