Thread: Need advice about depression...?

I know what you mean about getting more depressed in the winter when there is less daylight hours/and or sunlight depending on where you live. There are vitamins you can take ask your doctor or look it up online but I'm pretty sure that it's vitamin D. I know you said you didn't want to be on medication but I think vitamins are different. You can do research and figure out what foods contain the vitamins that helps depression if you aren't wanting to take pills or purchase pills.... I know it's bad for your skin but I found going to a tanning bed in the winter time helps. You may want to get a complete physical from your doctor, often times depression is a symtom of something else (such as thyroid problems) so if you haven't had one in awhile, a physical might not be a bad thing. Hang in there... it'll get better.

Originally Posted by JuliaBarill

one more thing...i know you feel you have no freedom....becoue of your mom...but honestly by going out into the world and handling adult hood seems cool for a while...untill it gets to you that you haft to grow up no and take care of your responsibilites for the rest of your life!!!! now thats some scary sh** lol...that mike make you even more depressed....it did to me...enjoy ur age and your mamaa really does know whats best ..shes only trying to protect your mental state of mind..... i think your just fristrated now...but take it easy ... <3

I know you're being nice about my mother, but when i tell her i'm depressed all she does is yell and tell me i'm not. my mother is not really looking out because i can tell by the way she talks that she doesnt feel i should do things simply because i dont like em. and i know you may feel being on your on is more depressing, but in my opinion i'd like it better because i'd actually have responsibilities that i dont have now. i'm 18 and alot of people say enjoy being young, i do but at the same time you have to grow up, when are you to grow up if you always want to be young. reponsiblities are a real self esteem booster to me. my sister even admitted that her getting a job and paying bill and all, made her feel better like she was actually doing something and she belongs here on earth...i would really love to be able to do things on my own instead of depending on my parents.

Originally Posted by collegegirl2010

I know you're being nice about my mother, but when i tell her i'm depressed all she does is yell and tell me i'm not. my mother is not really looking out because i can tell by the way she talks that she doesnt feel i should do things simply because i dont like em. and i know you may feel being on your on is more depressing, but in my opinion i'd like it better because i'd actually have responsibilities that i dont have now. i'm 18 and alot of people say enjoy being young, i do but at the same time you have to grow up, when are you to grow up if you always want to be young. reponsiblities are a real self esteem booster to me. my sister even admitted that her getting a job and paying bill and all, made her feel better like she was actually doing something and she belongs here on earth...i would really love to be able to do things on my own instead of depending on my parents.

i meant *she doesnt want me to do simply because she doesnt like em or it isnt here interest, like hanging out with friend, most of my friends mothers were good disciplinaries but still manage to let them have fun. she never wanted me to conversate with boys on the phone, when i was young but yet didnt talk to me about sex. the sex part isnt that bad because im still a virgin but it was still important.

no i understand girl. It is very nice being independent at times. As far as mom goes. My mother used to do the same thing. Still does. Screams nothnigs wrong with me and its all in my head. But i do kno this. Sometime parents dont wanna hear somthnigs wrong with their child. So they dont know how to handle it. So they simply deny it. As far as her not wanting you to talk to boys..normal.. as far a the birds and the bees, not normal.... maybe shes not comfortable educating you in that subjectv which isent very fair to you.... idk tell me what you think?

Originally Posted by JuliaBarill

no i understand girl. It is very nice being independent at times. As far as mom goes. My mother used to do the same thing. Still does. Screams nothnigs wrong with me and its all in my head. But i do kno this. Sometime parents dont wanna hear somthnigs wrong with their child. So they dont know how to handle it. So they simply deny it. As far as her not wanting you to talk to boys..normal.. as far a the birds and the bees, not normal.... maybe shes not comfortable educating you in that subjectv which isent very fair to you.... idk tell me what you think?

But my thing is not that she doesnt want to see anything wrong, she thinks I'm making things up, and she's the type that wants it to be all about her...my father is a little abusive verbally but he gives us a little freedom, yea I understand some stuff parents dont want you to do, but he is more understanding. She sometimes tries to make us think its all him, when it's her too...My sister is 23 almost 24 and she talks about her going places with friends. And I think it's normal for her to not want me talking to boys at 13 or younger, but not if I'm 18 and in college, and I don't think its normal to not understand that I'm interested in boys at that age either. And she feels that just because she doesn't like to hang out with her friends and just have fun, we shouldn't. My sisters and my brother can tell you that no matter what we do, or what it is nothing satisfies her...and about talking to us about sex, she thinks parents should do it, but she feels that she doesn't have to talk to me about it since I'm 18. I know you and others may feel she's the average parent, not. I understand that mother should worry, but my thing is I live with her and I know she isn't worrying about us, she just doesn't want us to have fun point blank. She makes EVERYTHING about herself. You'd have to live with us to understand what I'm saying.

Originally Posted by JadedQueen

I know what you mean about getting more depressed in the winter when there is less daylight hours/and or sunlight depending on where you live. There are vitamins you can take ask your doctor or look it up online but I'm pretty sure that it's vitamin D. I know you said you didn't want to be on medication but I think vitamins are different. You can do research and figure out what foods contain the vitamins that helps depression if you aren't wanting to take pills or purchase pills.... I know it's bad for your skin but I found going to a tanning bed in the winter time helps. You may want to get a complete physical from your doctor, often times depression is a symtom of something else (such as thyroid problems) so if you haven't had one in awhile, a physical might not be a bad thing. Hang in there... it'll get better.

Thanks...and I don't see vitamins as medicine
But I wasn't really saying see a doctor, I was talking about stuff like counselining...like at my school there are physcology teachers to talk to, I think that'll really help me define myself. And yea I got a physical last feburary, so I'll be getting my next one soon.

I've battled depression myself through my teen years and early 20's, and still have issues with it sometimes now that I'm completely off medication. It's even harder when your family isn't supportive. But, you are an adult now, right? Time to take things into your own hands. That's good that you'll be reaching out to the counselor's at your school. Also be sure to make time for yourself once in a while, do something you enjoy. Get some exercise too, it helps to release serotonin that helps curb depression. Even if you're feeling down and don't have the motivation to do anything, get yourself up and do it anyway. Trust me, it helps. Good luck.

Originally Posted by kristalyn04

I've battled depression myself through my teen years and early 20's, and still have issues with it sometimes now that I'm completely off medication. It's even harder when your family isn't supportive. But, you are an adult now, right? Time to take things into your own hands. That's good that you'll be reaching out to the counselor's at your school. Also be sure to make time for yourself once in a while, do something you enjoy. Get some exercise too, it helps to release serotonin that helps curb depression. Even if you're feeling down and don't have the motivation to do anything, get yourself up and do it anyway. Trust me, it helps. Good luck.

Thanks...I'll try.