Thread: Disturbed by Rape Scene

I've never seen the film but I've heard about it, and it sounds like it was created purely for shock value and terrifying the viewer as much as possible. But it's important to keep in mind that it is only a film, a work of fiction and the product of someone's imagination, rather than being based on reality.

You experienced a trigger. Something that reminded you of your own assault and created feelings of fear and anxiety and brought back bad memories. Its a good rule to follow to avoid things that trigger those feelings so that you don't live in a perpetual state of trauma and grief. However if you have never dealt with what happened to you, you may be harboring feelings, like CW mentioned... that you just havent let go of. Bottling things up is an itty bitty band aid... over a wound that outsizes it.. pretending things didn't happen can be a great way to make it through the day -- but the problem with doing both of those things is it keeps seeping out, the feelings , the fear, keep ressurfacing because they have not been addressed. So for long term healing , talking to someone will help you get through it more than you know.

I spent years bottling up the abuse I went through as a child and spent my teenage years overly promiscuously -- i think it was my way of dealing with what happened to me... not to mention I still hadn't learned my worth, the sense of self-worth I should have had... that was taken from me. Not dealing with it lead me to put myself in positions where I could be/and was... hurt again.

Abuse, Rape, it all manifests its pain in different ways in different people. But never having dealt with something, never having forgiven yourself for any guilt you may have felt about anything that happened to you (most women seem to burden themselves with what happened, as if they did something to deserve it) to realize you WE'RE a victim.

I'd suggest a counselor or a visit to your local rape crisis center if you don't have medical insurance or a way to speak to a professional 1 to 1. And I'd definitly avoid watching movies, reading websites.. that trigger the memories and emotions you haven't gotten sorted out in your mind as it will only serve to give you the anxiety you are experiencing now.

Thanks all of you. I will just avoid any bad stuff in movies etc. Ill talk with a counselor about it, so I can ease up a bit and be able to sleep.
Im taking karate lessons hehe, so now I actually feel more safe when going out to the grocery or with my mom or something ill be able to kick butt

But thanks, you guys make me feel better ^_____________^ thats why I came here in the first place, I knew i would get help here, Thanks and Happy Holidays!!!