Thread: Black Dog

Hi everyone, I'm brand new to this site, I only signed up to it because there seemed to be some really helpful responses to problems I had read. I have a problem and I'd appreciate some good advice.
I'm 22 years old and have a non exsistant sex drive. I have been with my current partner for a year and a half. Before him I went pretty off the rails after coming out of a long term relationship. I was at uni and wanted to experience the world before it got real. I had at least 2 "fun buddies" on the go at any one time and set myself up on a string of one night stands over the year between partners (I could really do without any judgement on that if you'd like to hold it in please), the point is, I had a very high libido.
When I started going out with my new partner the sex was great, we couldn't keep our hands off eachother. It was the first year that my S.A.D hadn't affected me during winter. Around the same time as us getting together I was prescribed a contraceptive pill called co-cyprindiol (aka Dianette) one of the side effects is depression and loss of libido. I was prescribed this through sheer vanity as I had acne that was showing no signs of clearing up.
Around September 2010 I began to feel less happy in myself and the sex count went from 7/8 times a week to about 3. I have tried almost everything I can think of between then and now to boost my libido from underwear to even using Spanish Fly (which just makes me feel ill) but now we VERY rarely have sex. We sleep in the same bed everynight but the last time we did anything was 2 weeks ago.
Now I understand that sex is not the be all and end all to a relationship and he has been very understanding and supportive and patient while i sit and beat myself up about it but i just want to feel normal again!
And you see, as supportive and loving as he is, theres a big insecure and paranoid part of me that thinks "if he ain't getting it from me, whats stopping him getting it somewhere else.
Please can someone give me some advice, anything. I just need someone to talk to that isn't my partner, I think ive unleashed more than enough on him.

Thanks in advance.
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