Thread: Am at a loss how to help ????

I am very concerned about a good friend of mine. She found ou a few months ago that her husband was cheating. He neither confirmed nor denied it and this is tormenting her. Fast forward and she has lost so much weight, is not eating and can go for days without doing so. When she does, she feels nauseous and is sick sometimes. She has a history of depression, has attempted suicide in the past and point blank refuses to seek counselling of any sort. I am deeply concerned because the relationship seems dysfunctional; she is highly suspicious, constantly clock watches when he leaves the house and says she doesn't trust him. He has told her on various occasions that he is no longer attracted to her, doesn't seem concerned about her weight loss, his words to me were 'what can I do about it'. There is much more to this story but I guess my main concern is her mental health and her diminished appetite. She is obviously hurt and recognises that this relationship is not working yet refuses to make any changes. She is obsessed with him, checks his texts messages and I can see that this will not end well. I just don't know what else to do??? We have all tried speaking to her and offered our support in various ways. Her self esteem is nil......and I cant see what else I can do.......