Thread: I'm Against Her Breast Reduction

Help, (THIS IS LONG! BARE WITH ME)

My girlfriend and I are at odds over her desire to have a breast reduction. She's had the desire for quite some time, but with me, I have helped put her in a position to where it can truly be possible. I feel so shallow and little because I am TOTALLY against it, but, at the same time, I feel I'm being very honest and supportive. Here's the situation.

My girlfriend is a knockout. A solid 10. Heck, maybe an 11 out of 10. Not rated just by me, but by all of her and my friends and family included agree. She does not. She feels she is average at best and her huge breasts are what are skewing the poll. She is a 5'5", 135 pounds, and 34F (34DDD). PERFECT! Man, I prayed for this perfection. Her breasts are perky and have no sag whatsoever and, to boot, perfect huge areolae! I really think GOD Himself was showing off when sculpting her. Lovely! She differs. For example, this is a little thing but, she believes that her breasts do not sit as high as they need to, so, one day I measured where she wants and thinks she needs to be "in her eyes" and compared it to where they actually are right now and found that the difference was a matter of a few mere centimeters, BUT, that's not the issue here at all. The issue is purely the size. She's not trying to get the perfect breasts by any means. She just wants to be quite a bit smaller and "normal" as she puts it. It is a pain to find clothing that fits up top and at the bottom. She almost always has to either make adjustments or wear the wrong sized tops- too big but covers or too small and a little more out.

She started to get these perfect gems of mother nature at an early age, like 13. It has been the object of ridicule, gawking, staring and what she believes has defined how people think of her. She cried just the other day when she came down the stairs and her mother remarked that her breasts looked so perky and then immediately said she was so very beautiful. I agree, she is beautiful. That's all I heard. Her mom remarked how the sun was glimmering off her and she was so gorgeous. I agreed, but the fact that her mom had remarked about her breasts just reiterates to her that people she that first and not really her. She does not believe that her beauty would be the case without them. To me that's just part of her beauty. She would simply be a very fit and very pretty person without them, probably still beautiful but not DEFINITELY beautiful with the entire package. It's like a body builder Swarzennegger asking if he could be Mr. Olympia without the perfect chest, He would still be very sculpted but to be perfect needs the big pecks. Kinda same thing to me.

Also, there is the issue of some lower back pain. I am not here trying to diminish the effects of large breasts on the lower back with her. I KNOW that it exists, she has it, and the breast size contributes wholeheartedly to it. Where we differ is that I believe that it's not the only contributing factor. There are other very damaging effects on the lower back other than the breast size that needs to be corrected before talking reduction. I am totally against evasive surgery like that and I don't know if I don't know if I can really like the scarring and altered breasts. It's just the same to me as if I was with someone who got enhancements. It's just not something I like. I really like who you are EXACTLY as you are. I also know that it's NOT my body and I don't have to endure the pain (mental and physical), but, I am willing to make every effort in any way emotionally, physically, financially, etc. to help mitigate this pain with all shorts of different methods other than reduction.

For one, she lifts quite incorrectly. I've been working with her with lifting properly. Her posture is off and causes damage. I can get and finance massages and therapy to help ease the pain as MUCH and often as possible. I will do ANYTHING, except the reduction. I have bought her THE RIGHT SIZE bras and better support. Eased the shoulder straps. I help with clothing selection. I help with getting them altered which is a HUGE surprise and plus to her. I tell her it's like having a size 15 shoe. It requires a little more work and I am willing to put in that work FOREVER!

Here's where I need the help. Am I just flat-out wrong? The 34F is a huge breast like carrying melons literally all day long. I know it is, but she's been doing it for 2 decades already. Having them has not depilatory to her in any way. She functions works, exercises, etc without issue.

I believe the mental side of having men stare, people gawk, friends make fun and compliment BOTH, just conversation about them at all has worn on her psyche and THAT combined with any lower back pain has her wanting more than ever to get rid of them, while I'm sitting here NOT wanting that at all. I have been honest with her to tell her that I don't honestly think I will like it if it's done. It could really change how I feel about her. Am I wrong for that or do I lie and say, yeah, everything will be alright? I am definitely and WILL help her through the surgery if she decides to proceed. I cannot guarantee afterward.

Signed,
Got It All, Want to Keep It All