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Reply With QuoteI want to answer this....because I have been dealing with a period of "unrest" lately. If by unrest you mean, lots of stress. Could you give me an example of some of your own patterns so I can understand how to better answer?
What are your patterns ?
We have all kinds of patterns.
They generally kick in when dealing with events that set an unrest in us, and in order to deal with those, we have developed a set of patterns (good and bad) to get by.
So what are your patterns ?
PS: I did this exercise few years ago to help me identify the signals and develop the right behaviors in time, i.e. before it's too late (in some cases)
Behold the presence of the Father in all beings...
I want to answer this....because I have been dealing with a period of "unrest" lately. If by unrest you mean, lots of stress. Could you give me an example of some of your own patterns so I can understand how to better answer?
"Be what you're looking for."
"The next time you're thinking of kicking someone when they're down, offer them your hand and help them back up instead."
One of mine, I recognized some years back, is that when I sense someone around me is tensing. I get an urge to clean. It goes back to childhood efforts to placate a parent with anger issues.
We can only learn to love by loving. - Iris Mudoch, British writer
Bad: I lose focus on how to solve it
Good: I still have the "belief"
Bad: I question the belief
Good: I re-afirm the belief
So, in other words I go around in circles make myself so tired that all I want to do is nothing and sleep...
When I am not so tired, though I Bog down start doing figures, ideas, so I know where I am and work out a plan to get where I am needing to go, in the case of relationships there are no figures so I sit and ponder and work out how ....
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
Im not sure if this is the right answer,
But when im stressd (Example making thanksgiving dinner by my self)
I tend it loose my mind a bit. Ill talk to my self repeating things ive done, or need to do.
Ill say it over and over again even though no matter how many times Ive said it
It hasnt changed lol
And I say Okay alot. Okay. OKAY okay Oh kay o.K.
Like almost as a mental check list, but im not checking anything off (unless its subconcious lol)
i hope that was the right answer (I didnt really understand the topic)
My problems all have a physical trigger
receive too much sunlight or stop sleeping for unknown reason despite massive dosages of sleeping pills
begin to hate all people and interaction
ban self from forums before saying inappropriate or mean things to people
withdrawal from all offline interaction
do not leave blacked out bedroom until after the sun begins to set
log in to depression chat for 48hrs
2 days later recover from lack of sleep/sunlight issue
begin to get bored
get depressed from boredom
start martial arts and offline interactions again
return to forums
wait for a repeat
I'm still trying to figure out my patterns. Why is this post so hard for me!?
"Be what you're looking for."
"The next time you're thinking of kicking someone when they're down, offer them your hand and help them back up instead."
The thread is not easy to respond because it's asking people to look at themselves without any judgement,
but simply identify how they react sometimes negatively to a sequence of events.
In order to help get the responses, we can give a list of emotional buttons and see how you relate to them:
* Angry
* Powerless
* Not good enough
* Sad
* Joy/Over-joy
* Resentful
To name a few.
With these in mind, it's probably to find what's get you going so to speak.
If we see our reactions to these buttons as an electric fuses, the goal is not to burn them all, or reach your boiling point but rather adjust in time.
Behold the presence of the Father in all beings...
One of my first patterns when non-positive events occur is to withdraw. Then depending on the event and emotion involved determines my next response. I'll let anger build up to the point of explosion which more times than not only excasperates the problem.
Events in which I don't have control over I tend to contemplate and just try to ride it out.
There will always be boundries, but making love is so different, than having sex, let's face it. CW
One of mine has to do with patience. I am very patient, and will tolerate a lot of things.
But in the background, a lot of my fuses are being burned, and before I know my last just went off and I can't take the slightest thing. Direct manifestation: Stop all discussions/topics/actions and ask the people involved to leave, in no time.
Another one of mine, unfortunately, only affecting my SO, is when upset I not only shutdown, but start living as she doesn't exist at all. I am working on this one, because it's particularly destructive.
Behold the presence of the Father in all beings...
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