Sanity check Up ( Kenny ) for Me Updating

**BabyGirl** · 09-05-2011 09:32 PM

Some of you remember Kenny , My Brother who went to jail in December for Hitting a Woman he was living with. She "Kenebi" posted here for awhile also.

Well he was released from jail in Feb on Probation, was Deemed Sane by the Courts. Had to do the Drug/ Alcohol/ Anger Management stuff. Follow thru with psych Evals and Treatment.

She *Kenxbi * or something like that ... Fought to have the restraining order taken off, it was and helped him ( along with my family ) get his own place, his First ever place he had in his name, not a " clean and Sober type ( Take every penny type fake Flop House ).

We were proud of him, but as feared, ( by Me & Family ) he has messed that up so Royally that he is Now looking at Federal Felony time of 10-20 years.

He had his apt, a phone, we all got him dishes, furniture, Tv, Stereo, Linens. Most from Yard sales or Donation to homeless or misplaced peoples resources.

And he was doing well for about 2-3 months..Then things were going downhill. rent and bills were paid by a Rep Payee ( not me or Kenebi ) but he found (Women & Drugs Again ),.
On his own, he decided to not take his meds, miss his probationary " Rules " appointments.
He found every excuse in the book to be late or reschedule missed Drug testing ( the ones for his legal meds to make sure he was on the proper balance ). Missed his anger management & Psych Counseling .

Things like showing up 20 minutes late for a scheduled appt. Missed Bus, Ride was late, thought it was at a different time. Those kinds of excuse . which Kenebi helped validate.

All the while, doing drugs ( Crank/ Crack/ Meth ) sleeping with any woman he could for the Drugs , married or not has a hubby or a guy or not. He even ( I found this out last week ) gave BJ's or Take it up / Bend over for Guys, for Drugs, Money, Smokes.

All this while Kenebi is, I can't say Supporting his actions, but more Enabling them, by saying she will forever be his " Friend " and Never Abandon him.

So many times during the past few moths , since Feb . I have I had calls left on my machine, both from him and Her .

His are more of the : Psychotic Delusional, Bi Polar Effective " that he can be.

Things like.

1)He is the President of Montana, Chuck Norris and Taylor Swift are coming to see him, because they are His " Cousins" and they are Driving up to see him in their Winebago Motor home and he wants me to meet them and they are taking us all out to Dinner at a Local Restaurant ". ( This is when I knew he was backsliding big time ...)

2) Our female Governor ( Gregoire ) had lunch with him and told him she had Herpes and she wanted him to umm, eat her, but he doesn't want any Skanky diseases from that " B Word ".

3) The Tribe from Montana is walking all the way over the Mountains in their Moccasins just to come get him and then Kill his Payee ( Representative for his SSI ) because she paid his bills but would not give him extra money.

Hers Are ...
1 ) Your Brother has done ( fill in Blank )
2) He is the Most Evil Person I Know, But it's Not the Real Kenny that I am just now finding he can be.
3) He needs me, His life is in my Hands, I cannot abandon him. He is so different underneath his pain. * Thinks she belongs in Western State along with him * And this I have told her to her Face .

These are just a few of the over 30 messages I have saved on my Voice mail.

Kenny is Insane, has been in our State Hospital before and Seriously Needs to go back again. Versus a Prison Sentence.

Why is he facing this Sentence ?

Last week the 26th, I found out he'd gone to court on the 19th ( Aug ) he'd showed up, with Kenebi , for failure to Comply with the Judges Orders. The counseling and drug testing , both legal and illegal. The Judge gave him one more chance to Comply, 30 days to get it all done. If not he was facing a Year in County Jail.

Kenny knew his Test would come up Dirty ( Marijuana at least) , he knew his Prescription tests would show he wasn't complying. he knew if he saw his Psych Counselor , they would report all of the no Shows and non progress .

So he blamed it all on his Own Defense Attorney. She's not doing her Job, she's got Herpes too, she's got the hots for him .. Yadda Yadda

During the week my TBI son was here , that I was so worried about.

Kenny managed to call his Defense Attorney, Chew her out and leave a Message that if he saw or could find Judge " L" he would kill him. And she was next along with our Governor . Then the Tribe would bury them in the Mountains, Never to be found .

All of this was Recorded. He was then arrested at Kenebi's Apartment ( not his own ) as he was hiding from an Angry Boyfriend of a Woman he was with while he / BF was at work .

This is just parts of it, there is so much more. I have contacted both sides of the Court, I am Trying very hard to have Kenny go into a Mental Facility again , lock up of course, at least until he can be re~stabilized ( if Possible ) this time.

I know I am not a " Give Up Mom " as you all told and it was Proven. But I am once again trying not to " Give Up ".

I think C.W. said I should be Insane myself ( jokingly ) for all my stress about my son .. I am sure that now she will believe it in truth .. Lol

Sometimes I feel like I am the New Perils of Pauline . Though of Sanity, or Lack there of .. Lmao

**jns** · 09-05-2011 10:17 PM

Sorry to hear about this. This is more of a problem than your son. But you are not his mother. Do what you can but don't blame yourself if things fail because he is sabotaging his own recovery. This must mean he hasn't hit bottom yet. I hope he gets help wherever he ends up. Best of luck to you.

**BabyGirl** · 09-05-2011 10:36 PM

Thanks JNS. I know it is Not my Fault and a bit Different than my son. One is a Mental Illness the other is the Physical / mental results to the Head Trauma.

But it is different as you say .

Thanks for Caring.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 09-08-2011 11:44 PM

I think C.W. said I should be Insane myself ( jokingly ) for all my stress about my son .. I am sure that now she will believe it in truth .. Lol

Dear Lord woman, you should be

Look BG, I so wish we could get people to "see" reality, I truly do but the truth is we can't if they are set in their ways and have no desire to listen then all the speaking in the World is not going to change it.

Now you will feel that you need to fight to have him out of jaol and into a rehabilitation environment and no doubt you will go down this road and use every method you can including saved text messages.

When is it your turn to live your life?

I know he is family but what about you?

CW

**BabyGirl** · 09-09-2011 06:49 AM

Look BG, I so wish we could get people to "see" reality, I truly do but the truth is we can't if they are set in their ways and have no desire to listen then all the speaking in the World is not going to change it.

C.W.
I can and do accept the reality, at least the reality that Kenny is Desperately Mentally Ill. What I have a hard time accepting as Reality, is the Judicial system. That is so gung ho on putting mentally ill people in prison, versus a Mental Hospital. which is a prison in itself, just with more medication and therapy and with people of like kind.

Kenny has been in a real prison before and the Mental Hospital. The Prison experience, taught him to be hard, uncaring and manipulative, to survive and nothing else.

The Mental Hospital, he learned to earn privileges by appropriate behavior, he received counseling, he was regimented on medications and actually made progress in understanding and accepting he is Mentally Ill.

He did well for a time after he earned his way out of the Hospital. It is the environment that he ends up in that undoes all of his Progress, albeit his own choices he makes when offered drugs or sex. He is forced to move into neighborhoods that are filled with Druggies, no other rentals or places will allow him to live in their Apt's or Houses, due to his Criminal Record.

He has not called me since he was arrested, I have a collect call block, He has not written, nor have I written him or visited him. Kenebi has seen him, taken calls from him and is planning on putting money on his books. She contacts me with her " I cannot let go of him and break my promise to never Abandon him ". Which drives me crazy.

I have explained to her that she needs to Bow out, stand back and let the Mental Health people take care of him. With her hanging on to him, he will have no interest in getting better, learning to re~function in Society again. He will know and believe that if and when he gets out, of Prison or the Hospital, he can go back to her and she will accept him as he is, Healthy or Not.

Now you will feel that you need to fight to have him out of jaol and into a rehabilitation environment and no doubt you will go down this road and use every method you can including saved text messages.

You are correct in my need to Fight to get him in the Proper Place. Just as if he had Cancer or Aids, I would do what is in my power to see that he received the proper treatment.
Know that if he actually did harm the Judge, wasn't Mentally Ill, I would fight to have him put in Prison as Punishment.

Just because he is my brother, does not make him above the Law. Remember, I have had two of my own Children Arrested, they hadn't the Mentally Ill issue, they were breaking the law and a lesson needed to be learned.

As for saving his Texts , He doesn't Text, he left Voice Mails, actual 10-20 minute Rants of which was proving his Insanity, Delusional " Stories, Wishes, Fantasy's " and then the next day, calling and leaving almost " Normal" messages.

These I have offered to his Defense Attorney and the Prosecutor equally available to both. So the Courts can have grounds to make a proper decision .

When is it your turn to live your life?

I know he is family but what about you?

That is a double edged Sword type question. Living " My Life" has been doing the best I can with what I have, raising my kids the best I can, supporting my family and friends the best I can.

It is inbred in me to help if possible, I cannot see a person, be it Stranger or Family or Friend drowning, in a car accident, in danger and just walk on by, no caring what happens. That would not be living my " Life " it would be hiding in a hole, burying my head in sand and ignoring the pleas of those in need .

With Kenny, I know I cannot " Save Him " it is not my Job, it is the Professionals Job to Save him. But I sure as can get the ball rolling, to help put in action , to instigate and make aware to the Courts that he is in Desparate need of Mental Help and Treatment.

Should they ignore the Evidence I have and choose to just slam him in a prison rather than treat his illness, there is nothing I can do. But I will know I tried...

And not that Kenny is a Dog, but in you I see the same Caring and Love, You have Diabetic Dog, you could Just Put down and not have the responsibility, the Love, the determination to help it's life be better or at least maintained to almost Normal of a Life. You get up early, give it shots, take it to the Vet, feed it the proper foods, exercise it. You do what is in Your Power , because you love it.

I can do no less with my Brother. Someday both you and I will have to face the Reality that we did out best and can do no more. But until that time, we will continue to make the effort.. Won't we ?

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 09-09-2011 04:21 PM

And not that Kenny is a Dog, but in you I see the same Caring and Love, You have Diabetic Dog, you could Just Put down and not have the responsibility, the Love, the determination to help it's life be better or at least maintained to almost Normal of a Life. You get up early, give it shots, take it to the Vet, feed it the proper foods, exercise it. You do what is in Your Power , because you love it.

You know what BG? You are absolutely correct. I wanted to make sure that you also live, that you also find time for you amongst all of this anquish.

Life is indeed about doing the "right thing" even if it's a burdon and in standing up for what you believe in, and to push towards that goal and vision and you are doing that.

As, well as trying to push others into the right direction if they listen.

I see that a threat to a Judge can create concern and I see that he achieved some form of re-habilitation in the Hospital but lapsed once out again but you are right, he doesn't belong in a prison he is mentallly ill...

Take some time for yourself but yes, stand up for your beliefs.

You are right, it is costly to keep Kia going, it is tiring to get up at 5.30am every morning, but you work with it and fight for it because after all, I took her in as family, and so it's my responsibility to do everything I can to keep her happy and alive, she deserves that.

I do believe in fighting for people's rights 100%. And I will never change so I get where you are coming from.