Thread: How to be more comfortable with myself?

I just turned 22 today and I've just finally realized something, someone always has something to say about me. I know I'm not unique in that aspect, but my reaction to being talked about sucks.

Because of that, I don't even like most people anymore, and I'm turning into a bitter and paranoid persons. I'm already really defensive.

I've always been either the leader or the loner. 'Fitting in' and having a 'group of friends' was often harmful to me.

I'm hurt. I feel like crying. I don't know how to just breathe around people anymore.

My self-esteem is not great, obviously.

I'm not even sure what to do. I want to stop caring about what other people think and I want to be more comfortable with myself. Any ideas on how to do that? Thank you.

I have horrible self-esteem also and my husband is a loner, and I'm slowly becoming that way myself because of all the military-spouse drama on this small base. I recently picked up a book called The Sexually Confident Wife which is actually helping me deal with a lot of my insecurities.