In Need on In-depth Understanding of Childhood Anxiety

**caterpillar79** · 12-10-2011 02:35 PM

Yes, Mum. I do need to vent and I am so grateful that WH is here - that all of you are here. I am such a reclusive person. My talkative nature in the forum is not as true in person, especially if there are more than 3 people around. Sometimes I wonder how I ended up in this career. I just love to share what I know and teach, etc....

BTW, did you know that the states look at the number of 3rd grade students who cannot read and they base the number of jail cells to build on that count and there is about 4% margin of error in there estimate? This just puts more pressure on me as part of these students' lives. Somehow, I am so hard on myself today. 5 more days and I'll have a 14-day Christmas break, it should be nice.

The mind of a kid who is depressed or anxious really makes me curious - I wonder if they can even feel real joy when it comes. I wonder how they perceive my firm warnings and gentle instruction? I wonder if, at the age of 9, they can tell that they are really set out to fend for themselves because their parents are too busy to keep their lights and bills paid. It's not their parents fault predominantly, but.....how can life be so cruel to such innocent souls?

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 12-10-2011 04:16 PM

If there were no hurdles to jump as a child, that child would not be wary of the real world, nor be educated about what lays ahead and how to handle that.

We can not choose our parents but as we mature, we can choose if we wish to be like them or, the opposite.

You are a part of their childhood, one that they will remember if you be you, and in that, you have become a part of that lesson that they will impliment later in life.

YA JUST NEED A HOLIDAY

**jns** · 12-11-2011 05:12 AM

caterpillar, when training someone of whatever age who seems untrainable, the key for the trainer is to learn to deal with and let go of the frustration of the slow pace. Start each day anew and go over what you are trying to teach to the depth that you can in the time you have (kind of like Zen). Celebrate the small achievements. Over time progress should be made.

**caterpillar79** · 12-11-2011 09:15 AM

I'll do my best to keep that in mind and do it everyday. (And here I am again with the negative thought, saying, " one step forward, two steps back".)