Thread: really bad issues....

I agree with Princess, the most important factor to a succesful relationship AND your emotional health is good communication.

Most people naturally build these walls and keep feelings locked inside. It's a defense mechanism to protect you from the pain of rejection, embarrassment, or betrayal. Girls tend to direct these feelings toward other girls as a natural instict. Our brains tell us that another female is a threat even when they are not. Some women experience this more then others. Women will develop these feelings towards men if they have been repeatedly cheated on or lied to in the past.

It is true that you must learn to talk about your feelings when they come up rather then pushing them back to later explode like an atomic bomb. I know it's not easy to open up and it will take some time and determination, but once you get into the habit of it, it will become much easier and less stressful. Talking about your feelings immediately will help to resolve conflicts and tension between the two of you and make your relationship so much better. It is also a gateway to trust and support.

Don't be afraid of what he might say or do. Push through the fear and just do it. He most likely will be concerned and eager to listen as Princess said. Of course, there is the small chance that he may clam up. That just means that he has the same problem with opening up. Even so, it's something that the two of you need to work on. You can then have a better understanding of each other's needs.

Good luck to you and I hope we helped!