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    Default Am I stressed, or is this just life?

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    All right, I'm new to this, so bare with me if I ramble:
    -My OBGYN office called a crisis team on me because I'm 30 pounds underweight, my blood pressure is a solid 140/110 and I have terrible PMS.
    _They suspect something else going on, like a mental illness sprouting up from no where.

    Now, I am stressed: I quit my career for my boyfriends start-up company. I work 24 hours a day, 7 days a week waiting on himself and his brother-doing finances, dishes, scheduling meetings, cleaning, building exhibits, scheduling dental exams- everything! It does make me feel like I am losing my mind at times, but I don't think I am at the point of mental illness. I was raised to believe that, "This is life".

    I see their concerns, because my health has started to fail me, but I don't want to end up diagnosed improperly. I need some ME time, and some stress management outlets, but I don't have health ins (since I gave up my career). I have resources but there just isn't enough time in my life to try them out.

    What really hurts me though, is that by the end of the week, when I see my daughter, I haven't the energy to even sit with her and listen. I am dead-tired, hungry, broke and overwhelmed with low self-esteem.

    Should I:
    -demand more appreciation
    -demand more ME time
    -find out where this relationship is really taking me
    -join a gym
    -get a job again

    I honestly wouldn't know what to do if I had more ME time, and I do feel that quitting my career and joining him and his brother's company was the decision I wanted to make. I want to be able to keep up with their demands and raise my daughter well- I WANT TO BE WONDER WOMAN!
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    Its easy for anyone to get stressed with your schedule.

    what i suggest is to write down the things that are most important to you. the ME time, going to the gym, getting a different job... then figure out a way to do it a little at a time. if you feel that you don't like it, then that's ok too.

    I don't think you should demand appreciation though. because when it is then given to you, it won't seem sincere. think to yourself, "why do i do these things? is it because i have to, or because i want to help?"

    I know what its like to not feel appreciated. i think all women do. but when i start to feel like "man, i did the dishes and hubby doesn't even care", i say to myself... "I want to do the dishes so my kitchen will be clean" or "my kitchen is a mess because i am well fed"

    see if you can change things around to see the brighter side and hopefully your stress level will go down. stress is a major trigger for anyone, MI or not

    good luck!
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    Quote Originally Posted by bellasmom View Post

    Should I:
    -demand more appreciation
    -demand more ME time
    -find out where this relationship is really taking me
    -join a gym
    -get a job again
    To me, it sounds like you need to do all of these things on your list.
    You daughter deserves a healthy mother who can properly take care of her more than your boyfriend and his brother needs an assistant/cook/housekeeper.

    Put your health first. Risking your physical and mental health to help someone start a business is ridiculous. Sorry to be so harsh but it sounds like you are at a serious breaking point.

    How hard is your boyfriend and his brother working?
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    The twins work usually 8am-12:30am everyday! It is very hard on me. But I've got to find a way to deal with this.
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    So it's their business and the two of them only work 4 1/2 hours a day?!

    You need to take a stand for yourself and for your daughter! Immediately!
    You are only one person. There is two of them. Is there a reason that you work so hard and they are done by lunch time? That's ridiculous.
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    12pm is noon isn't it. I said 12am 16 hour days! As I write this it is 1:53am and Im still here.
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