I've een married to this man for 6 yrs and was a wonderful - full of laughter type of person when I married him. His family is riddled with health problems starting while we were dating so I knew the family I was marrying into, but this is beyond bad. It started 3 months after our wedding when his father past away from unknown heal problems. Since then 2 other people in his family have been diagnosed with cancer and a sister-in-law past away to unknown circumstances. That left a brother who had years of back problems with 4 children. Needless to say it's been a rocky road.

We talked about having kids 3 yrs ago, but he's been putting it off since.

I got him into theropy, but due to my own lack of marital fulfillment - I'm constantly angry at the "situation" that the family issues alway seem to create this black cloud over our life such that he "checks out" of our marriage.

I got him into theropy 3 weeks ago finally after threatening to leave if something doesn't change. But now I'm so depressd and angry about the situation i feel like i should go to some kind of theropy now. It's ruining my outlook on life now. Any help / advise would so be appreciated.

If you go back and read what you posted, I think at the end you know what you should do. Now that your husband is hopefully starting to get the help he needs, now its time for you to start taking care of yourself. You seem to have a lot of bitterness built up over your situation. I would suggest you also try to find a counselor to see, YOU need to talk to someone who can help you work through this from your end now.
Best of luck, I hope you can find some understanding and a happy ending to what seems to have been a rocky situation.