Thread: Being "yourself"

I think it is normal. People have the tendency to want to fit in so they slighty change themselves to match the croud that they are with. Why do you think that we have different accents around the world? Be careful who you hang around with, you might think that you will not comprimise your morals but I have seen some outstanding individuals become thugs because of the croud that they allowed themselves to fall into. Remember your individulalism and stay true to yourself.

good point with the accent thing. never thought of that....and im sure im being a tad too self concious, which i hate! lol

I am sooo overly self conscious its ridiculous...I hate it as well haha

Originally Posted by desertrat702

So sometimes i think i know who i am and i think i know what that means but i notice im one of those people that will act differently around different people, unintentionally. not that i will completely go against my morals or do something that i dont agree with but say my mannerisms change and i start to pick up on the way they talk and things like that. im just wondering if anyone knows why that is and if anyone has any advice as to how i can get in touch with my "real self" LOL! and always be that person no matter who im around or what im doing. i probably sound like im crazy but i know i cant be the only one! thanks!

I don't think you're really straying from your "true self" just sometimes different people bring out different parts of your personality that were already there? I notice myself doing that as well like say I'm around my bf's parents I naturally get more polite and watch my language. :] But when it's just me and him I don't like "watch myself." I think it's just you wanting to get to know the people and present yourself in a way where ya have things in common like I have an artsy friend who I'm always doing crafty things with so I prolly seem artsy and hippy there lol but then I have a couple of gossipy friends so I prolly seem more all giggly and stuff around them it's not that I'm changing my whole personality I still like TALK the same I guess it's just about different things - bringing out different parts of myself. Just try not to be too concerned about "who you are" just let it naturally be expressed. :]

what you are describing is more about being socially adept than not being yourself. We learn as very young children to act differently in different situations and around different people. It is a skill.

If we were unable to do this we would be seem as socially inapropriate. Can you imagine if we acted the same around our friends on a night out as we acted while attending a court case for example.

I sounds like you are just picking up on social ques and this helps us mix with different people and build report.

As long as ther fundamental you doesn't change you are still being yourself but adapting to diff. situations.

Try not to over think it too much.

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Its all good... it is normal to mimic people you are hanging with. It is a form of praise really to pick up some of their habits of speech or mannerism's. Now if you are copying their every mannerism, speech, way of dressing, ect....... then that would be werid and you would have an identity problem. That's not the case here you are just being midly influenced.

Everyone has given brilliant advice and it is totally normal... i was at university in Wales for 4 years and came back to England with a welsh accent ...um, i put on my posh voice around posh people, i have a northen accent when i speak to the grandparents... Its a reflex, haha, and im convinced that people think i am taking the mickey out of them.

Yep, agreed... you are being 'your true self', dont worry too much about it.