What to do?

**GodsAngelbaby** · 01-31-2009, 02:49 PM

i have posted a few posts on here now and would like to ask for advice.
im going to be 25 and my b/f of 3 years will be 29 this year. we both love kids i have been around babies and kids my hole life and just love them i think that babies are the most wonderful innocent gift from God and i always wanted a family 1 2 or 3 babies not a hole bunch. my b/f always told me i would make a good mom as he has seen me with kids and babies. he is good with them also as he grew up with younger sister and brother and was a babysitter for his pastors twins at one time (he even changes babies diapers okay women what guys will change the babies diapers including children that are not there own lol (i know a lot of guys who wont change there own babies)
anyway so we have talke about someday if the time is right and we are all set and are ready to include a baby or babies into our family
(after we both finish college have jobs a house/apartment.. make sure we are all set) i love babies think they can do no wrong they are perfect i never get mad and love everything about them!

but here is my delemah, there are so many babies/kids in the world that could be adopted should i adopt one instead of us having our own?
if i did could i end up fully attatched. (im sure i would)

also i have fear's im not sure if they are normal to have but a lot of time i dont want to have a babie i am afread everything or something could go wrong before they are born or while they are being delivered and afterwards what if' something happends or they get realy sick or die , hearing of SIDS or having some accident i dont think i could live with myself i had a babie and soemthing happend .
then i think what will happend when they get older .
any thoughts? or should i just wait and see what happends
i realize i over think about everthing and think about everything to much and to often.

gabby

awcmon · 02-18-2009, 10:13 AM

Tough issue - you'll need to decide for yourself, of course. There are lots of children who need homes, and you could provide a good one.

If you decide to have your own child without adopting, though, I don't think you should feel guilty.

Kung Fu Kitty · 02-19-2009, 05:33 PM

adopting a ababy is tough,theres usually a loonnng waiting list. would you adopt a toddler or younger child?

TEX86 · 10-18-2009, 12:30 PM

my 6 months old baby not sleep too much in day time.when eake up in the morning.just tell me to hold her all the time.only one hour sleep in day time and 15 min sleep in the evening. and go to sleep at 11 pm at night and wake up again early morning.
help m about it. rather it affects her growth.
plz help

**WildChild** · 10-19-2009, 06:56 AM

What are you feeding your baby?

lullaby Mom · 11-06-2009, 04:23 PM

TEX86,
I would strongly recommend that you keep a recorded of what you are feed your baby. I was having the same problem with my daughter and I found out that she is allergic to absorbic acid in fruit's. It sounds like your baby is hurting. Tummy is usually the most common thing to hurt. But I would check with your Dr. and see what he or she says.

01-31-2009, 02:49 PM	#1
GodsAngelbaby VIP Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Michigan Posts: 92 Blog Entries: 1	What to do? i have posted a few posts on here now and would like to ask for advice. im going to be 25 and my b/f of 3 years will be 29 this year. we both love kids i have been around babies and kids my hole life and just love them i think that babies are the most wonderful innocent gift from God and i always wanted a family 1 2 or 3 babies not a hole bunch. my b/f always told me i would make a good mom as he has seen me with kids and babies. he is good with them also as he grew up with younger sister and brother and was a babysitter for his pastors twins at one time (he even changes babies diapers okay women what guys will change the babies diapers including children that are not there own lol (i know a lot of guys who wont change there own babies) anyway so we have talke about someday if the time is right and we are all set and are ready to include a baby or babies into our family (after we both finish college have jobs a house/apartment.. make sure we are all set) i love babies think they can do no wrong they are perfect i never get mad and love everything about them! but here is my delemah, there are so many babies/kids in the world that could be adopted should i adopt one instead of us having our own? if i did could i end up fully attatched. (im sure i would) also i have fear's im not sure if they are normal to have but a lot of time i dont want to have a babie i am afread everything or something could go wrong before they are born or while they are being delivered and afterwards what if' something happends or they get realy sick or die , hearing of SIDS or having some accident i dont think i could live with myself i had a babie and soemthing happend . then i think what will happend when they get older . any thoughts? or should i just wait and see what happends i realize i over think about everthing and think about everything to much and to often. gabby

10-19-2009, 06:56 AM	#5
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02-18-2009, 10:13 AM	#2
awcmon Banned from WH Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 20	Tough issue - you'll need to decide for yourself, of course. There are lots of children who need homes, and you could provide a good one. If you decide to have your own child without adopting, though, I don't think you should feel guilty.

02-19-2009, 05:33 PM	#3
Kung Fu Kitty Banned from WH Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Maine Posts: 126	adopting a ababy is tough,theres usually a loonnng waiting list. would you adopt a toddler or younger child?

10-18-2009, 12:30 PM	#4
TEX86 Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 3	my 6 months old baby not sleep too much in day time.when eake up in the morning.just tell me to hold her all the time.only one hour sleep in day time and 15 min sleep in the evening. and go to sleep at 11 pm at night and wake up again early morning. help m about it. rather it affects her growth. plz help

11-06-2009, 04:23 PM	#6
lullaby Mom Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 15	TEX86, I would strongly recommend that you keep a recorded of what you are feed your baby. I was having the same problem with my daughter and I found out that she is allergic to absorbic acid in fruit's. It sounds like your baby is hurting. Tummy is usually the most common thing to hurt. But I would check with your Dr. and see what he or she says.