9 year old started her period

**Beautiful Disaster** · 11-09-2009 08:54 AM

I'm 26, and I started when I was 9. My mother had started at a very young age (9 or 10) so she sort of expected it with me. Indeed it happened. However, when she was a kid no one talked with her about it and when it happened, she thought she was dying. She didn't want it to freak me out, so she talked with me about it and I fully expected it. I also was hairier and much more developed than the other girls. She let me start using "nair" on my legs and underarms to make me feel more comfortable. Some parents set rules, "no shaving until you're 13".....but every kid is different. Letting them shave, wear a bra, etc is much better than sending them to school to get made fun of.

Talk with her, embrace it, use it as a time to bond. It was a great bond established between my mom and I. I could talk with her about "girl stuff' when I could talk to no one else. Its important for her to understand not only what is physically happening to her but also emotionally during pms times. Lord knows us ladies go through alot to be able to reproduce.

Aside from being her mother during this, be her friend too.

**WildChild** · 11-09-2009 09:36 AM

This is a combo of genetics and chemical exposures. BGH being the biggie, it acts as a hormone receptor which leaves hormones unable to go where they actually should in the human body. It's a quandry in one sense these girls are now women but really they aren't, they are still little girls - dealing with a woman's cycle. Emotionally, intellectually and really, physically, they are still children. Many traditional cultures have a ceremony to celebrate a girl's transistion into womanhood, but this really too early. I agree that you should work to make a bounding and try not to make it seem a burden. It will be a balancing act to educate them without sexualizing them at such a young age. This trend is particularly scary for little girls in cultures where the onset of menstration makes them marriagable.

**hanna1227** · 11-24-2009 10:36 PM

I got my period when I was in 4th grade, all I suggest for you to do is just talk to her in depth about it. Sex doesn't always come along with period so I would wait until middle school at the least. I'm 15 now so I know how scary it is to be the only one that has your period in elementary school, and its like my mom gave me the sex talk when I started and all it did was scare me, it made me feel so out of place and awkward with everyone. I recommend you not talk to her about that. And about the whole tampon thing, I don't think you should talk to her about it yet. My mother just started letting me use them this year, and I'm in 10th grade. I didn't feel that I really needed it until I got really active and busy during high school. However, I am a heavy bleeder, so I always felt that I was "leaking" everywhere in elementary and middle school, which made me very self concious, soo if she is a heavy bleeder, I suggest you give her the option and just tell her the consequences and stuff about using them.

That's just my opinion and how I was raised, I know for me it would have been wayy easier if my mom had told me what was going on with my body and that I wasn't alone. The sex talk my parents gave me was through a magazine and I couldn't really talk about it to them. It'd be easier if they had talked to me because I lost my virginity at 13 and thought nothing of it at the time because I didn't know how really bad it was.

Anyways, I hoped this help and it may have given you a view point of a younger person. Maybe it helped?

**Ravsoma** · 11-27-2009 12:36 PM

When I was two, I walked in on my mom in the bathroom and thought she was dying because of all the blood (I don't remember this, but my mom does). She then told me about periods... I've always had a knowledge about periods and how to talk care of them. So, when my period came on (I was nine at the time) I knew exactly what to do.

Parents should always plan for the worse. The worse, in this case, being your daughter having her period and not knowing what it is and how to deal with it. The best thing you can do is tell her what a pad and a tampon are and how to use them. Let her know that she's becoming a little lady. ^_^ That made me happy when my mom told me that.

Also, it's your job as her mother to educate her. Please, don't have someone else teach your child because you're embarrassed. You'll only make your daughter embarrassed and ashamed, which is horrible since she has no idea what's going on in her body right now. You seriously need to sit down and have an unabashed conversation about the changes that's going on with her and that's it's really no big deal.

... I don't think she needs the sex talk, yet. Fortunately, I already knew about sex when my period came, so I made an extra effort to stay away from boys and their impregnating cooties. ;p

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