When my child was 2 y/o was determined hyper active by the doctors, but his behavior has worsen thru-out the years. He was spelled from his Pre-school and it's very hard for me to find a babysitter that wants to take care of him. Don't get me wrong he doesn't have any retardation problems what so ever but his behavior is just un acceptable. Now that he is 4 y/o he is going to a psycologist to see why has he is acting like this. My child unlike many other kids loves to play, but his passion are for things that would take his mind alot further than toys and wanting to learn ABC's or Numbers. He doesn't see or play with any of these things that i will discuss now because i find them very not educational what so ever. Things like guns, knives, he wants to kill and fight all the time, Is this normal? can a kid just be like this now and later in life be a good student as well. If you have an experience like mine and know the answer to this please e-mai me back. I'm affraid he will become a physco when he gets older. Is bad enough am a single mother nor the less to deal with a child that has no intrest in learning the right stuff ??? HELP... I DON'T WANT TO GIVE UP!

BABYDOLL--I am not a mother--so i really can't say too much about this, because I havent been in a situation similar to yours. However, I can say this--DONT GIVE UP!! This is your child--and you should continue fighting for him, the same way you have been over the past 4 years. I greatly admire strong women such as yourself for continuing to fight, but you should never stop!

I admire your fighting over the past 4 years, it takes a strong individiual to do so---KEEP IT UP!!!!!

I am a mother of a 4 year old have several niece's and nefews all ranging in age and disorders from bypoler to add w/athoritive disorders ext.. my advice is take away all the toy gun's for one and be adamit that fiteing and hurting is rong....he most generaly just needs something to hold his interest...so spend the weekend totally devotet to what he is doing and saying ask him things like do you like to draw.....draw with him....do you like to play pretend and dress up.do that with him as well...he may just be wanting a little exstra attention......this may or may not work but you both will have fun doing it ..enjoy each others company for the weekend and go from there.As for baby sitter you can contact his dr.or your local Dept of socal services and you can get a list of certified day car providers that are willing to watch overactive childeren..

I know how you feel. I have a 10, 8, 4 and 2 year old sons. My 2yr old acts exactly like you described your son when he was 2 and now my 4yr old-Lord, he's a hand full. All they like to play with his guns and swords and pretend to "kill" people. It really bothered me when my older boys played like that when they were at that age. But they grew out of it. So when I see the younger ones, I just toss it up to their age and todays society and what they see on TV and movies and the news. Just believe in yourself that you are a good mother and you know what is best for your child-you'll make it through. Instead of worrying all the time about what he's not suppose to be doing, step back and smile, look at all the good things he does and has brought to your life. Before you know it, he'll be 5, 6 and 7 then 15 and you'll wonder why you spent all that worrying instead of just enjoying. Take care and remember to BREATHE when all else fails!!

Wow! I count my blessings on having a quiet 5 yr-old!
One of my colleagues, however, was not so lucky. She had a hyperactive daughter who broke one her ribs when she was in the womb, and that was just a taste of what was to come! When her daughter was three, she had to have bars on her daughter's room windows and a lock on the door to make sure her girl didn't escape at night.
What my colleague found most effective was totally controlling her diet: no sugar - ever! she even went to the trouble of baking her own bread. As her daughter got older, she also got her into very physical activities and lots of sports. Her daughter is now married, is successful at her job and enjoys bungy jumping and hand gliding - extreme yes, but that way she can control all that excess energy.
All the best and don't give up.