Thread: Is it me or my mom?

You aren't being selfish sweetie, you are wanting grow up and that means a degree of separation from your mother. I am a single mother and have an 18 yr old and 16 yr old. This is part of the teen years, you have to find more who you are. Your mom needs to get out and make some friends of her own and do her own thing. It's easy to fall into but parents really shouldn't make their kids into their confidants.

It's unfortunate she can't be more trusting. It is important not only to know how to give to also how to receive and that means letting people help you. It makes your life much easier too. You know her best but try to find a time she is relaxed and in a good mood to talk with her. A long drive in the car can be a really good time. My kids and I have had some great talks while drving. Tell you you love her and enjoy it when you do things together but that you want to have more opportunity to get out with kids your own age. Tell her some of the things you'd like to do with friends; go to the movies, bowling, laser tag, just hanging out - whatever it may be. What you don't want to do is catch her when she is in a hurry or stressed trying to get something done and then get argumentative, then she's more likely to just say no without giving what you are say consideration.