Thread: Having a hard time and looking for advice...

Ok. Here's the deal I have a few different issues that I am dealing with.

The first is not one but both of my sons, ages 2 and 4, are suffering with learning disabilities. My youngest only has a 12-14 word vocab and we know it's the cause for his anger issues because he can't communicate to us what he wants. My oldest is enrolled in physical therapy, speech therapy, and occupational therapy. He can barely count, with assistance he can sings his ABC's but won't even try to learn how to write them. He can't recognize shapes, mixes his colors up, and has a distinct fascination with fighting and guns and such.

I am unsure of how to work with this and I feel like a horrible mother because I don't know where to start to help them. I'll admit now that I have been hesitant of doing anything for the simple fact that I was afraid of doing something wrong some how... Any ideas?

My other problem is this. My ex and his family have been calling the cops on my fiancée saying that he has been abusing them. Now the cops have come out and seen that there is no evidence of the alledge abuse. His (my ex's) brother has gone so far as to say that my fiancée is abusing me. I was sitting in a tank top and shorts with no make-up or sunglasses! Plus, I have never acted, nor have my kids acted like we were afraid of my fiancée. I am also aware that some friends of his family have been keeping and eye on our apartment (by his own admission no less) and have been reporting to him and his mother what they think is going on. D and I have to watch all we do and say while the boys are with us for fear someone is going to see something or hear something and is going to run back to my ex. I hate the fact that we have no sense of privacy here and were not for money issues we would move.

How can we deal with these situations?