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5 year old trouble
Hi! First post here so please be gentle.
Basically I have a 5 year old son, and he's just discovering that he can be naughty.
He's taken to grabbing my glasses from my face and running off with them, taking much joy from doing so and the disress it causes me.
Any suggestions on how I can stop this.
Suzy x
Discipline? How do you react when he is naughty? Do you discipline him? Do you have follow through?
Often children do things because of the reaction.. Reverse Psychology may be the key.
And as SP put it... Discipline and making sure it is enforced.. Time-outs, etc......
Children need to know boundries and when they cross them, penalties.. Just like rewards for positive actions..
He's exploring the limits, playing and pushing your buttons. At this age there is still not a lot of understanding of other's feelings or needs. It's best if you can redirect this behavior in a positive manner. I always tired to find a way of teaching with my kids (must have worked they are both top students- national merit, AP).
You do need definite boundries, there are some things which simply cannot be allowed either for safety reasons or social boundries. You have to decide what is really important to enforce. I found time out, taking a favorite toy (you have to balance, do not take a "security" toy, such as the stuffed animal they sleep with) no treats and in this you have to be consistant and firm. Yelling, hitting (no matter what you call it) are not effective or positive teaching methods.
If you can create a game. With the glasses I would teach using something he loves. Does he like to be read to? You can't read to him without your glasses. What else needs your glasses - you can't take him to the zoo, park, library, his freinds house without them. You can't fix dinner without them, you can't read the recipe or find the ingredients! Oh no! What will you do? You can educate him, help him learn that his actions affect others but still nurture his desire to play to be able to tease and joke but he can learn to do it kindly.
We can only learn to love by loving. - Iris Mudoch, British writer
As everyone else said, what form of disclipine do you use? My little cousin is kinda the same way. He takes what he wants and runs off. Like WC said, he's testing the boundary and seeing how far he can push you. What's one of his favorite activites to do with you? Does he like to read stories with you or help make dinner? If you can't see, how can you read with him or make dinner? As far as punishment goes, I would take away something he likes do to. With my cousin, if he did something good or did something he was supposed to, he got to watch one of his TV shows or drink chocolate milk. If he did something wrong or something he knows he supposed to, he goes to his room and doesn't get a reward. In my opinion, you need to discipline him in a way to where he understands that you mean what you say and he can't do certain things, but at the same time, he gets what you're saying without thinking you hate him and still love him.
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So based on my experience, I highly recommend it to anyone who is having discipline challenges.
Good luck.
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