She is 9 going on 17 and it started at 2.

**sapphire_dame** · 10-26-2010 07:55 AM

I have a beautiful daughter. She turned 9 in August and is in 4th grade. She is an only child and as such is slightly spoiled. By the time she was 2 we had many daily temper tantrums. I'd like to say that it got better, but it really hasn't. We still deal with daily temper tantrums over even very small things. She is responsible for her own chores such as picking up her room, folding and putting away her own clothes, and smashing soda cans for recycle. Sometimes, she could have had the work done in the time it takes to have the temper tantrum. We also fight over doing homework. She is smart but she isn't school oriented. She just doesn't care about, but could be a straight A student. I'm not worried about straight As.

I just want us to get along. I want to be able to spend the day with my daughter and not fight with her over very small things. Any ideas? I'm open for suggestions.

**sourpuss** · 10-26-2010 08:12 AM

You have to ask yourself why she, after 7 years, is it still worth it to her to throw a tantrum. She obviously gets something out of it or she wouldn't do it. What are the consequences when she does this? How do you react?

**judy7** · 01-04-2011 07:22 AM

wow, you just described my own 9 year old daughter, we call her The Drama Llamma, she doesnt like that name much but when she is acting the part, as we call it, she realizes it and has to deal with her bahavior, we dont entertain her bahavior at that moment and let her be in her moment, because she knows she is not getting the attention from it....she will i'm sure grow out of it...but to let her have her moment and not respond to it seems to work for us....hope this helped