How do I do with my bf's son

**oxyear** · 01-21-2011 06:41 AM

I got the problem as I dont know how i have to handle this.... My bf divorced with his ex by the court ordered, and have a lots of problem before that effected to the elder son because of his mother behavior... she tried to killed her children and her husband.....long story!! he had two sons. The problem with the elder son.... he came to visited us last time, he was naugthy and very bad to me and his father... I told him for stoping to harm his youngest brother, he wont stop then i have to yelling him... when he back to his mother house. He told his mother that i always said sick and to him so his father always said sick to him too...... As i never said that !!!

So what should i do?? and his mother also text message told me to shut up!!!

Can somebody hekp please........

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 01-21-2011 02:26 PM

Hi oxyear...

Please explain your version of "sick"...? Is the child telling his Mother that you both are saying he's sick in the head?

I have difficulty also understanding why if his Mother tried to kill her children and your boyfriend, why does she have any custody of those children? And how old are those children?

In any event, any child that has difficulty in their childhood such as "someone trying to kill them" is going to have trouble, be traumatised, is he getting councelling?

I don't believe yelling gets anyone any where, are you saying that he hurts his younger brother?

He needs councelling.

CW

**jns** · 01-21-2011 07:49 PM

Does the younger son live with you? Where did the divorce take place?

**Martha08** · 01-24-2011 06:31 AM

Truly yelling does not help in this situation. naturally they must be defensive, the only way to survive as the other woman is to take their S**t like a stoic.