Thread: When is it okay to start yearning for a baby? Does it mean anything?

Sounds pretty normal. Many women start wishing for a child at your age, but then there are those who never do. Same with men. Some long for having lots of babies, others don't.

I think that this is a dangerous desire because you are too young. Be careful; you may have a relationship and follow your desire to have a baby. It’s very hard to begin your life with a child if you’ll become an unmarried mother. It’s also very hard to find the right partner when you are still very young.

A mother has to forget her own plans many times; the baby’s needs are always more important. If you are still too young when you become a mother, you might feel frustrated for losing your freedom. You won’t have the chance to live your life and do many of the things you want to, travel, etc.

Having a baby is something good only when you feel you have really found the very right partner, and when you are mature enough to face your obligations as a mother.

Certainly, it's okay to want a baby, but based on your word choice, "longing," I assume there is a somewhat negative emotion connected with your not being a mother yet. Is there? Why do you think you want a child?
The best thing you can do for your future children is to live a well-rounded life before you have them. That means getting all the "other" things you want that are incompatible with child-raising first. Finishing college, traveling to far-off places, even partying. This living will even help you find the best partner you can: it'll make you a more healthy and interesting person to be around.
Just make sure that the partner you eventually find really wants children, the only thing I think your longing for a child can mean is that YOU WANT KIDS!

Some preteens love younger kids and have already decided they want a baby as soon as they are old enough. Personally I still follow my decision made when I was about 10 that I'm never ever having kids. While many will change their mind as they get older there isn't really a minimum age for that type of thinking. Acting on it is a different matter and a great amount of thought and planning should go in to such a decision.

I think it is normal to know that you will want a child/children at that age. The fact that you are yearning, especially when you are busy with school, makes me question if maybe you are yearning for that unconditional love more than anything. I became a single mother at 23 and most of my friends that ended up pregnant were single mothers also, it is not easy. I will tell you please for your own and your future childs sake, wait until you have all of your goals accomplished and everything you need to get out of your system done with. My advice is to take full advantage of being young and single as long as you can. I will never regret having my daughter or struggling the way I have, but there are things that I wish I could have done before having her. If I ever do get around to doing those things they will be far off in the future because she comes first.

I'm 19 years old, and 18 weeks pregnant.

I had always said I didn't see myself having kids, or maybe I was just too young to be thinking about it.

At first when I found out, I was scared stupid and a disappointed. Now that I've come to terms with it, it's ok for me. But, that is only after realising now that I have so much big major changes in my life now.
I always wanted to travel and see the world, but now where would I get a baby sitter that would mind my baby for a year, apart from that I can't just get up and leave. I no longer can put myself first. I enjoyed going out with friends to parties, and drinking and meeting new people and males. After all I'm young and single.
But now that there's a baby involved, EVERYTHING changes.

I'm not saying that to put you off having a baby, but you have to realise the major changes and responsibility that a baby will bring.
It's not just for Christmas.

Babies don't stop you from doing things they just make it harder. My friend had a child at 21 and travelled with a toddler and she's currently studying to be a teacher. So anything that is in your control is still possible. Her only setback has been finding someone nice who wants to be with her. I think alot of men are put off by women who already have kids.

I'd recommend doing as much as u can bfr u have kids and u don't nessesarily have to be with someone, but just realise it takes away alot of personal freedom.

It's a normal age to get clucky I think. I'm 26 I've had these "urges" on and off since I was 20ish. It's hormones, it's natural. Enjoy your life and make the choices that you want.