Thread: need help with my baby shopping!

An extensive write-up on that in this thread: http://www.womens-health.com/boards/...erwhelmes.html
What are your "big choices" going to be? I assume disposable diapers, but are you going to breastfeed or bottle feed? Will you use an infant bed or bedshare? Will you be babywearing? Do you have a certain parenting philosophy in mind?
Try not to stock up too much on your diapers/wipes yet, because you never know if you'll have an issue with one brand over another.
At the end of the day, little Jacob doesn't care what you paid for something or how cute it is - he just cares that you have what you need to be the best mommy to him. So if you think you'll need a swing, get one! Wipe warmer, go for it. The same things one mom will trash (that wipe warmer is a hot topic,) another mom wouldn't be able to live without. So take my suggestions with a grain of salt

I want to breast feed, I'm going to be a stay at home mom and was wondering if I needed a breast pump? What is bedshare, and baby wearing? We have bought a few boxes of stage 1 and 2 diapers but in different brands to try them out. So far we have a handydown infant crib/play pin. I'm nervous about it bc I don't no what kind of bedding to buy for it?
We have a baby bouncer, a carseat good from 5-65 pounds, a monitor and a few out fits for newborns.

We hope to buy a real crib one that we can use from infancy to change to toddler.
We will need a stroller and I think a baby carrier, the cloth that you wrap the baby on your chest with I think that would be really cool!
We need to buy socks and onesies.

I'm trying to think of things that we really need. So far my mind is turning from frantic to logic

Breastfeeding is great. You do NOT need a breast pump in your situation. If all goes perfectly (which for some people it does, for some it goes really badly) you will need nothing but breast pads! Not even nursing clothes. And you can get reusable pads, which I advise because the pads I used were like 10 cents per pad, and some days I'd go through two pairs.
BFing is great, I love to advocate for it. There are a lot of ways it can SEEM to go wrong and in the US, there is a medical culture that would rather throw formula at you than help you fix the problem (which I hear is improving!) Go in educated. Start googling about "booby traps." The time you spend learning all you can about breastfeeding will pay you back again and again once the baby is born.
Bedsharing is keeping the infant in your bed with you. It can be done part-time or full-time (and don't let anybody tell you that your child will "never sleep alone" if you do it - you can decide to change sleeping arrangements ANYTIME!) And most importantly, it can be done safely. You should research it and make your own decision based on yours and your husband's sleeping styles and whether you feel it's safe and right for your family, knowing that the AAP recommends against it, but many cultures around the world that report zero or nearly zero cases of SIDS do it worldwide. If you do decide to bedshare, the playpen you have now will probably suffice for many months before you'll need a proper crib. BTW - co-sleeping is having the baby in the same room with you, though often used interchangeably in articles. Room sharing is suggested by the AAP to reduce SIDS rates.
Baby wearing is when you use baby carriers or some kind of cloth construct to hold your baby on your body. The name brand for the thing you mentioned is Moby wrap. Personally, I preferred a ring sling, but you may decide otherwise! I think you've mentioned before living in a warm place near the beach, so remember the weather when you're making purchases. Heavy fabric carriers won't get used. Also, "constructed" baby carriers that hold baby upright and focus their weight on their spine/tailbone can be bad for them, so do your research on those too.
You may not need to buy any bedding for the play pen, but I've seen special sheets for them at Walmart. Remember that the sheets need to be very tight-fitting and that new recommendations don't allow for bumpers, stuffed animals, or blankets in the sleeping space.
Make sure your carseat is okay to bring your baby home from the hospital in (it's the MyRide 65, isn't it? I have that same one!) I was recently told that the seat has to specifically be an infant seat at birth, but I haven't checked. Lots of infant seats are sold in packages with a stroller they fit into as well, which is REALLY convenient with errands and a sleeping baby.
I suggest buying clothes in "lots" on ebay. It's super cheap (I just got done buying my son's 3T wardrobe, summer and winter, and it put me out less than $70 shipped!) and especially with the smallest baby clothes, they don't get worn for long. Not only does this mean that the previous owner didn't wear them out, but also that your child probably won't wear them out either! I buy his clothes a size or two ahead, especially from clearance racks.
Logic is good Hope I have helped! I am a bundle of unconventional parenting and many hours spent on "attachment parenting" sites, so if ever you have a question about any of these topics, now or after the baby is born, just let me know.

You are so helpful!
I hope the carseat will be fine.. it is made for infants that adjusts later for up 65 pounds... I will have to double check.
I am very lucky to have friends that have little boys and want to shower me with clothing and what not I have no problem at all with excepting hand me downs oh and no more beach for me now we live up north so warm baby gear is on my mind for now!
Thank you for your help and I am sure ill be back to bother you!

Happy to hear you will be breastfeeding. I agree with Little that many give up on BFing because there is no enough support. That was me many years ago. My daughter BF her daughter for 33 months and her son is now 25 months and still BFing. Before giving up check with a Lactation consultant. The is a babywearing website that has tons of different carriers from newborn to toddlers. Have you thought about cloth diapering? It might be a bit expensive at first but will save you money in the long run and they are so cute now. The have snaps and velcro. There are a coupel of good site for diapers too. I don't know if I can mention names on here?