I know that title sounds horrible, but hear me out. My daughter is 2 years old,Brittney. She is picking up every little action or word. She has a cousin, who is 4,Johanna. She is my husbands sisters daughter. The day I brought Brittney home from the hospital, Johanna slapped her in the face. And its only gotten worse! Johanna has started to throw crazy fits where she will hit and scream things at you like "SHUT UP !" and "I ****ING HATE YOU!" She will grab everything in a room and through it. Pictures off the wall, bottles, the remote. Anything she can find. I know that this is a learned behavior and I have my problems with his sister as well. You can read my other post in the family section if you wanna know how I feel about her. But I am concerned with my 2 year old being around her. The other night we were having dinner at their house and Johanna sings while we are sitting at the dinner table "Brittneys gonna die". In this scary kinda pleasent voice. And her mother doesn't do anything. I wanted to slap her across the face. I couldn't believe she said that. I am worried that if I allow Brittney to be around her she will pick up this horrible behavior. But I don't know how I can stop it. My husband is very close to his family. We spend the whole weekend at their house and his sister lives very close. We have dinners together when we are there and we go to parks and stuff with them. How do I tell my husband and his parents that Brittney is not allowed to play with Johanna anymore. I don't want to come out looking like the in this situation. But it is looking like i may have no other choice. You really should read my other posts about this little girls mother. It is so obvious why she acts this way. But I don't want my little girl learning how to do and say these types of things. She already has in some ways. I wish that there was something I could do for Johanna because I am worried that she has some serious problems. And her mother thinks that its all normal phases. I have never heard of a phase we the kids sings someones gonna die! And it was the way she said it. Creepy, singing and she had this smile on her face that made me think that she wanted to kill brittney herself! This child gets no dicipline. There are never any consequences. She was in day care for a while but Laura had to take her out for the same kind of reasons. Now she stays with my husbands mom during the day, so laura blames everything on her! I am there when laura is not and I see the way she acts. Laura just blames everything on everybody else. She is a really ugly person. I am talking about on the inside. I have never seen her be nice to anyone. But anyway, back to my point, how do I stop Brittney from having to be around her without ****ing off my husband and his parents?? Please help, I am about to lose it!!!!

Jen,
That behavior is learned, you are absolutely right. They live close, so what. If you dont want to subject your child to singing about somebody is going to die. Go when they are not there. Set up some time when you dont have to be bothered with, that little girl or her mother, that way your child can still see her grandparents. If the weekends, then so be it. I know you said the grandmother watches Johanna during the day, so Im assuming during the week is off limits until her mother picks her up. Laura, should get the point when they dont see you guys anymore. Hope I could help.

Tell Ur husband how u feel on the situation. I wouldnt want my daughter signing that or acting that way. Put ur foot down, let the family know u will not tollerate this kind of behaviour. So what if they get mad for a while. It sounds like they all try to please ur sister in law by not saying anything and letting his happen. If she is at ur home and u are watching her, u are in control, if she is bad, explain what she is doing is wrong and put here in a time out. If she starts yelling and hitting, maybe putting her in a room with the door shut for a time out is whats needed. i believe this is a despreat cry for help, she wants the attension and knows how to get it.

There is something seriously wrong with Johanna, and
you are wise to keep your child far from her.

Some people have mentally ill children they do nothing
about. From what you write it is clear this Johanna
is one of them.

Your duty is to protect your child at all costs.

I recall new people came to the district, and as soon
as I saw the daughter, I knew she was emotionally
disturbed. I did not allow my child near her.

Subsequently, the situation with that girl exploded,
and at least my daughter wasn't in the fall out.

Jen,

have you told your husband how this child acts?
His sister and neice can do or be whatever he thinks, but YOU have the right--no, the OBLIGATION--to protect your child from any and all harm at all costs.

Forget about all the "dinners" and "living close by".
Tell your husband that his sister and her child are saying and doing very hurtful and harmful things to you and your child and tell him that you WILL NOT LET YOUR DAUGHTER STAY AROUND HIS SISTER'S DAUGHTER AND LEARN HER WAYS AND ALLOW HER TO HURT HER LIKE THAT!!

I mean, WTH is wrong with people?
I'm tripping over the fact that the child's mother is letting this child just do whatever she wants when she wants!

Send the mother to therapy--ASAP!