tempertantrums!!! 3 year old
I have a very rowdy 3 year old and he seems to be getting out of control with his temper tantrums lately. Not only has been talking back and being very fresh with my husband and i but now at daycare and grandparents house. He doesnt listen when told not to do something and seems to go out of his way to be disobedient. I am a teacher so i work with kids on a daily basis and also grew up in a large family..i am stumped as to what to do. I dont want to keep yelling at him..but i dont like this behavior..any ideas??
hi
hi DONT yell it will make him think its ok to shout and scream try talking in a deep but soft tone of voice also when he has been naughty make a naughty corner that he has to sit in till his temper calms down or the steps is another one also do a reward chart and let him know he will get something gd when hes being gd buy some stickers for it also try distracting him when hes being bad outside like (can u see any birds) it works with my three yr old hope u the best
A swift kick in the *** works... That's how I was disciplined. XD
Although, talking to him would be alright, but you don't really know if he can comprehend at his age.
i hope u were kidding u dont kick kids if u wernt joking u need help and i feel sorry for ur kids if u have any and my 3 yr old know when hes been bad so it does work ( the post b4 this i made )Originally Posted by Ravsoma
Knowing Ravs, she's just kidding.
Leyy,
Addicted has a point. Do talk to your 3-year-old in firm tone of voice and let him know that is not the proper way to act. Let him know what the penalty of his tantrums will be, and make sure you follow up with what you say.
It sounds old and corny, but putting him in a corner and making him face the wall can be very effective! I did that with my kids, and they HATED the corner! They straightened up soon enough.... and dreaded the CORNER. LOL!
Try putting your son in the corner alone, and see how he acts. Talk to him afterwards and explain that this is a consequence to his actions. Show him good things come in response to good behavior.
If that is successful, you and your husband should get together with your son's daycare providers and let them know that this method works and have them do the same when he throws tantrums.
He will need to have this same practice in force each time he has a tantrum, so that he'll learn the right way to behave brings good things; and the negative actions bring consequences.
I hope it works out for you!
Quitters never win; Winners don't give in
me too
Levy~ let me know what worked for you. You perfectly described my 3 year old. I too have been having the same trouble with temper tantrums at home, school, and his nana's house. I also am a teacher. The children listen so well at school. Why do I have trouble with my little one?
great advice here...... honestly when it comes to kiddies...of any age... mums and dads stay calm...gggrrrrrr secretly within...never let the guilty party know they are getting to you ... to them its like yesssss l got a reaction... be consistant..always... go grab the nanny dvd s... the naughty corner... naughty chair.. wow.. wish ld thought of that many moons ago when my tribe were going through the wobbly stages..you know usually there is some reason why a childs behaviour has changed...not in all cases .... could be something soooo simple too... best o luck...all part of growing up lm afraid
Hello ladies - im a UK poster . Im forty ...firstly may i disagree on something you have been discussing in these posts and that is the dreaded NAUGHTY chair ...a rediculus concept that came nfrom watching nanny 911 from England ...or whatever . This so called naughty chair , im in the opinion and many others ..(ive had many friends working and living in USA and Canada as nannies ...British nannies are very popular ) the naughty chair will give a child a complex ...trying to force a child that is screaming and crying to stay seated on a chair is cruel not to mention difficult some children especially 3 year olds ect will get so physically upset screaming being forced to sit on this chair that it wouldseem the only option to tie them to the seat ...of course no mother would do this .
It is better to place the child onto the floor in a safe area ...sit down face to face ...even though the child is screaming and crying --talk calmly and firmly not raising the voice or giving any facial reactions ...the child is reading your face for reacton ...if this dosent work as difficult as it may be stoking the childs arms with reasurring words or just being gentle ...tell mummy whats wrong ..i carnt help you if you wont tell me ...the child will carm down if you repeat it as its not expecting a CALM and gentle reaction from you .
If all else fails with the child in a safe place on floor eg...kitchen by you or near you while he or she is still crying carry on your duties in thekitchen ignoring the temper tantrum ,....talk to your husband above the crying gently and carry on as if nothings happened and eventually the child will learn to calm and stop screaming or kicking ...even if the child is kicking or hitting you sit calmly and stll hold or reassure the child ... and then some praise when calm ...good boy ..good girl ..thats much nicer now mummy can listen and talk with you ...and the reward stickers are a great idea .. the naughty chair will i think make children grow up fearing and having nightmares ove being forced to sit on this chair and feel like they have been singled out ...just end up with a complex ...dont do the naughty chair ...
Catherine x
Why would you praise a child if they are hitting you, etc. in a manner that is completely unacceptable in public, school and in the homes of relatives? I agree with completely ignoring the tantrum, no doubt. But if you're at a party, or in a store... you can't ignore. That only works at home.
I'm determining that there are two schools of thought in this day and age: firm, direct punishment, or touchy-feely discipline. (I think my description made it sound like I don't like the second,)
I've tried both. The "new" method, praise, encouragement, "tell me how you're feeling right now," etc. doesn't seem to work in my book. What I have noticed is that any threat of a punishment - taking away a privledge, toy, movie, playdate, trip for ice cream - that is not enforced 100% leads to worsening behavior. I swore up and down I was a follow-through person, but I wasn't. If I was distracted or busy or upset (my husband was very ill last year) I would make empty threats of punishment. This has led to my daughter "testing" me alot, and now I'm back to being "bad mommy" - today I made her throw out all her gum, and I had to banish her to her bedroom after the tantrum that resulted after we threw out the gum. If I don't follow through when she tests me, it will be my own fault for the behavior that she'll think she can get away with.
The same goes for the chair. The reason you have to make them sit on the chair and constantly place them back on it is simply because if they get up and walk away they will never understand consequence and no lesson is taught. Being "made" to sit in a chair cannot physically or emotionally damage any child. If you find that cruel, I can't imagine what you think of people who yell at their children for misbehavior in the grocery store. Nightmares? From sitting on a stool? I'm skeptical. My mom beat my tush with a wooden spoon, screamed at us on the top of her lungs, and I'm fine, functioning and well adjusted. I think a bit of fear of the repercussions of being bad is healthy.
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