Thread: help, how do I handle this!!??

Maybe if you explain to her the consequences of her telling people she is being falsely abused she will understand. Do you think she did it for attention? Are they talking about abuse and strangers and all that stuff in school? Best of luck and stay strong.

Yikes! How embarrassing! I feel for you. I would approach the teacher if I were you. Chances are that the teacher may have already contacted the school counselor.


ps: in kindergarden I told everyone my dad smoked a peace pipe. It didn't dawn on me until I was in high school what it really was.

We lived in a granny flat and there was a family in the front house.
They had three boys.
One morning l woke up and there was a huge thud at the door and then it was the farther who lived in the front house his said my son's just told me that your partner just smacked one of my son's one hour ago.
l had to tell him the children was lying and that it was funny because my partner is still in bed.
He told me and my partner to watch out he stormed off back in the house.
two hours past a knock at the door he was back and he had the boys. My oldest son said it was a lie and he felt so bad. well we will never know just what children might say. Just as you tell them the story of the little boy who cried wolf.

Children sometimes just make things up. Often there doesn't seem to be any motivation (that an adult would understand), they just do it. I assume the school is familiar with this. BUT - with the world so paranoid about child abuse it is probably a good idea to contact the teacher. As someone has mentioned they may already have started an investigation.

I don't want to be too alarming, but this sort of thing can become very serious. My wife an I were foster parents for a brief time. The 5 year old girl with us had been taken out of her house and kept from her parents for > 6 months based on something she said. We were convinced that nothing at all had happened, but once the process was started there seemed to be no end. We did everything we could to try to get that poor girl back with her family - to no avail. As long as there was "any possiblity" of a problem they kept her out of her house.

Harlow -

I feel for you. You had to be completely stunned. My daughter told my class that I'm the worst cook in the world, and I had a fit about THAT! She probably mimicked what another child said. Maybe it was to see your reaction? They are so mystifiying at this age.

My best friend's son, 5, told his father (they're divorced) that the babysitter's son hits him. Meaning the babysitter his mother uses. Out of nowhere he just told him that, which caused a huge fight between the parents, because it simply isn't true. They two boys get along really well.

It could be that your daughter my have told you one thing, and what she said at school may have been nothing like that. Do you think maybe the school would have contacted you already if she made that comment to her teacher?

My daughter is now 10, but she went to pre school/daycare a couple mornings a week when the was 3-5 yrs old. One of her front teeth was VERY loose, and she was misbehaving. I went to spank her butt and she was screaming...I thought "what the...?" because it wasn't hard. Well her tooth came out, very bloody, and it scared her!! The spanking didn't help, either.
Well the next day at daycare/preschool her teachers noticed her tooth gone and she said "mommy hit me and it came out" Well, ofcourse it sounded like I hit my girl in the face!! They had to write it up, but we talked about it and I got to write my imput on the report, too...so even though I was cleared and it never became a big thing it just goes to show you what kids, in their innocence, will say simply because they don't know how it sounds to us adults.

Maybe she was talking about spanks? Or tickling? or play fighting?In any case, hope it all turns out