I Have An 8 Month Old And He Cries For Me And He Only Wants Me And Nobody Else Not Even His Dad, And It Is Making His Dad Feel Unwanted So What Can I Do To Open Him Up To People And Not Be So Attached To Me Please Anyone Help.

I would think that the only way to deal with that would be to have the father spend more time with the baby. When the baby cries, he needs to go comfort the baby and not you. If you are taking the baby from the father because it won't stop crying, then you are enforcing that behavior. The baby will start to think... "if I cry, mom will take me". The dad needs to take part in everything that you do with the baby. Changing, bathing, rocking, and all that good stuff.

That would be my opinion anyway.

funnily enough, my first was his daddy's son. No one else would do.
It was his father's fault for always carrying him around, as if they
were joined at the hip. I warned my husband not to do it. Leave
the child, stop making the child so dependent on him, but he
never listened.

I am sure my first son is the way he is...(screwed up) due to
his father's treatment.

There is going to come a time in your life when you can't
be pandering to the child. You might work, you might be
somewhere else, the child might be in school...
this dependency on one person is destructive, and anyway
you can end it...do it now.

I'm sorry but i don't find this destructive, i find it to be normal behavior of an 8 month old baby. I have 4 children and they all went through it. my oldest is now 8 and loves to be with his daddy. Assure your husband that this will pass. Maybe not now, maybe not in a week or a month but as long as he is involved in his life and continues to show him love and affection, he will reap the benefits, even if its not for a little while. Your son is a baby, he will be 8 in a blink of an eye. don't worry yourself about this, please. Love him and continue to build his trust in you as a safe place and he will get past his dependency. For now just wallow in the old saying that no one is better than mommy!

Hi there, this is my first time in the forum. I have a 10 month old baby girl and went through something similar. She wanted mostly to be with me and cried when she saw "strangers", I'm talking grampies here. But there isn't really a reason to be frustrated. A lot of babies go through some sort of separation anxiety at about the 6 month mark...so I've heard. This helped me just expose her to others a lot, but always making sure that if she needed me she could count on my comfort. I'm sure that with time you have to help your child gain confidence and independence, but that is done gradually, depending on the child's development and age. I don't believe you should ignore a crying baby. I think it can only create more anxiety. Whether its mommy or daddy getting the cold shoulder from baby, believe me, it will pass.

I have three.

The first, the father made dependent on him to
the extent he cried for his father exclusively.

When his father carried on with his life, the child
felt rejected although he was surrounded by family.

I avoided this with my second, so that he was
virtually comfortable with anyone, and my third
is the perfect example of a cheerful outgoing
happy child, because I enforced the 'open'
relationship so that she would not feel dependent
soley on me or her father.

The first married and divorced and seems to
have a trust problem

The second married, made me a grandmother,
seems very well balanced.

The third is getting married, and her confidence
is enviable.

Making a child too dependent on one person
turns out badly. In Sanaii's case, it is her.
She must wean the child from her, no matter
the crying, the reluctance, eight month old
children...even new borns are usually 'friendly'.

Eight months is old enough for the child not
to be so insecure.

I would have to disagree Kaylar. Sorry but I think this is healthy. I think the mommy is doing something right in order for that baby to want her all the time. So what if that baby is dependent on her. ALL babies depend on someone right? I mean why is this a bad thing? I can see why your husband would want some attention. So include daddy in on play time, have daddy join you for baithing time, and bed time. If daddy wants to be closer with baby, then daddy needs to be with mommy when she does all the important stuff baby needs. That's just my oppinion. I was attached to my mother and now I can't stand her and my father pretty much has nothing to do with me early on in life and now we are closer than ever. I am going to Nursing school which I am fixing to get my Bachelor's, I am happily married to the same man, I am preparing for my first child, and I am having a blast looking at homes to buy. I didn't turn out to bad. I can understand where Kaylar is coming from. Everyone has a different oppinion on the matter but you know your child best. Take the advice and handle it as you see fit. Have a great day darling. Hope all works out!

I've had to deal with a lot of babies in my life; not just mine.

The confident baby grows up to the be a confident child,
and a confident human being.

Most babies are social. They are held without crying by
everyone. A friend comes over, the baby has no problem
even though he/she has never see that person before.

You can do a test, just go to any pedatrician's office and
see how the babies behave. Most don't mind going from
hand to hand. Most don't have any fear of people.